I caught three "fairies" today, twice

TheCatWoman said:

does that mean that my first three wishes the fairies couldn't fulfil and were offering me a different three

like your success with your computers search results - the system probably couldn't find the wishes you were asking for so it asked you to retry...

You’ve done it again, Iain. Your reply received a downvote, so you responded by upvoting it yourself - in this case returning the visible net result to zero. As if no one had downvoted it in the first place.

(For anyone who isn't aware, clicking or tapping on the figure in between the up and down arrows will list anyone who's voted on any given reply).

You also recently upvoted your own reply in KittyMetal's thread - cancelling out, in terms of the effect on the net voting figure, one of the downvotes it had received from others.

Generally speaking, I think we can all safely assume that you approve of your own posts, without you voting them up. Just as we can in respect of our own posts. 

In my view, upvoting your own replies to offset others' negative reactions is misleading and disrespectful - especially as voting is perhaps the least confrontational way that we have, here, of expressing things like disagreement, concern, or disapproval.

In respect of your reply above, I’d intended to let my downvote be enough to signal my concern. Since you’ve chosen to cancel its effect on the visible score, I’ll explain my thoughts more visibly instead:

Your “joke” was an ableist attempt at humour, made at TheCatWoman’s direct expense. You already know that technology is a sensitive subject area for her. It’s one in respect of which she’s previously explained her difficulties to you in detail, including telling you very clearly about the adverse impact, on her, of some of your replies on the subject.

This was a lovely, whimsical thread. Everyone else replied in keeping with that. It certainly brought back fond memories, for me, of chasing fairies in the garden (although I never really knew what to wish for, in the moment).

But you chose to raise her difficulties yet again, by making them the subject of a “joke”. That’s why I downvoted it. If you hadn’t then responded by upvoting your own reply, I’d have left the matter there.

You’ve done it again, Iain. Your reply received a downvote, so you responded by upvoting it yourself - in this case returning the visible net result to zero. As if no one had downvoted it in the first place.

(For anyone who isn't aware, clicking or tapping on the figure in between the up and down arrows will list anyone who's voted on any given reply).

You also recently upvoted your own reply in KittyMetal's thread - cancelling out, in terms of the effect on the net voting figure, one of the downvotes it had received from others.

Generally speaking, I think we can all safely assume that you approve of your own posts, without you voting them up. Just as we can in respect of our own posts. 

In my view, upvoting your own replies to offset others' negative reactions is misleading and disrespectful - especially as voting is perhaps the least confrontational way that we have, here, of expressing things like disagreement, concern, or disapproval.

In respect of your reply above, I’d intended to let my downvote be enough to signal my concern. Since you’ve chosen to cancel its effect on the visible score, I’ll explain my thoughts more visibly instead:

Your “joke” was an ableist attempt at humour, made at TheCatWoman’s direct expense. You already know that technology is a sensitive subject area for her. It’s one in respect of which she’s previously explained her difficulties to you in detail, including telling you very clearly about the adverse impact, on her, of some of your replies on the subject.

This was a lovely, whimsical thread. Everyone else replied in keeping with that. It certainly brought back fond memories, for me, of chasing fairies in the garden (although I never really knew what to wish for, in the moment).

But you chose to raise her difficulties yet again, by making them the subject of a “joke”. That’s why I downvoted it. If you hadn’t then responded by upvoting your own reply, I’d have left the matter there.