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It's official! - BBC news 'solitude as an aspirational lifestyle'

Marianne72

At last, it appears we're becoming mainstream Thinking ! Read this BBC news article. 'Solitude as an aspirational lifestyle: 'We are not lonely.''

I admit that at first I felt miffed [strangely], as if 'normal' people had encroached on my chosen solitary space, turning it into 'a thing'. For years, before discovering I was autistic, being solitary was a lifestyle I felt I'd created - something special. I'd endured the usual remarks - 'everyone needs someone' 'what about when you get old?' - constantly reading in the media trite remarks like the greatly over-used, 'billy no-mates.' But perhaps it will prove to be a good thing. Those with psycho-pathologies that lead them to commit crime to, 'get noticed' might at last feel understood; their state becoming 'socially acceptable', instead of a cause for taunting. Others who feel lonely and for whom the lifestyle is not an actual choice, might feel relieved that they are, 'normal'. 

Is this revelation a good or bad thing as far as you're concerned? 

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  • It's good to show you can be happy, and actually be able to do the things you want to do for you, rather than for other people, but the article was a bit strange that all the people were content creators, so actually they are interacting with thousands of people on the internet by making videos of being 'alone'. 

    Also the quote didn't seem to back up the sentiment:

    "But she cautions that while influencers can make being alone look "really appealing", humans still need social connection and it can be detrimental to one's mental and physical wellbeing to be stuck in a cycle of intense isolation.

    "We're a social species," says Ding. "We survive better with companionship, with people around us."

    In some ways, it's like she's doing one thing and saying another? 

    But I agree with your sentiment  , saying it's okay to have your own life should be celebrated!

  • in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    It was a bit hit and miss, but overall it's good the subject is being explored, and mainstream too. 

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