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Older Peoples diagnosis for ASD

tracygirlyy

Hi all, I have a son who has just been diagnosed with an ASD luckily i have lots of help within my school and getting lots of info we were also offered the genes test but as we are out of the UK this is hard to do at the moment so will do later, has anyone had this test and gave any answers?  The reason I am asking is me and my husband think his mum maybe on the spectrum she is in her 60's.  A lot of family have fallen out with her as if things dont go her way she throws a fit and stops talking to anyone, then expects everyone to speak a few weeks later no questions asked.  She always says rude things out and about and doesnt bat an eyelid, my husband says when he was younger christmas was always cancelled and holdiays as something would go wrong and she would throw a fit, I know it sounds random but it answers a lot of questions along the years, she also remembers dates to the t and also talking to her daughter after my sons diagnosis she actually bought it up before i did she hasnt spoken to her mum for years after a falling out.  How would I bring something like this up to her to see if she would see someone should i leave some reading material next time i am home with reference to my sons diagnosis and see how it goes?  would be grateful for any info as this would provide lots of answers for family who currently dont talk to her.

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  • Unfortunately I lost my granny a couple of years ago.  About a year before that we realised that me, my Mum, and my granny, all show Asperger's symptoms.  It explained a lot why my granny managed to upset people by saying the wrong thing, being honest, etc.  She suffered a lot with depression and anxiety problems all her life.  So, where people have decided to not talk to her at all and cut her out of their lives, I never.  My Mum never.  It helped that another member of the family was diagnosed because it showed she wasn't the only one.  Not long after we realised that's why she is the way she is we went to a funeral together and she made some pretty innapropriate comments, which were supposed to be viewed as humour.  As being on the spectrum myself I understood why and I liked her '**** society' attitude, but a lot of people just seen it as rude and didn't want anything to do with her.  Unfortunately, some people are like that.  There isn't much we can do about it.  We can't make them be any other way as muc has we can't do it to someone on the AS.

    I suppose it depends on his mum's view on health support.  My gran had no problem going to the doctor.  Actually, she was there more than anywhere else.  So she was open to what was being said.  We bought her 'Asperger's for Dummies', which she enjoyed and related to.  It might be an idea getting some informatio nlike this, in a leaflet or book, if she isn't open to the idea.  Let her read it and see if she can relate to anything being said in it.

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  • Unfortunately I lost my granny a couple of years ago.  About a year before that we realised that me, my Mum, and my granny, all show Asperger's symptoms.  It explained a lot why my granny managed to upset people by saying the wrong thing, being honest, etc.  She suffered a lot with depression and anxiety problems all her life.  So, where people have decided to not talk to her at all and cut her out of their lives, I never.  My Mum never.  It helped that another member of the family was diagnosed because it showed she wasn't the only one.  Not long after we realised that's why she is the way she is we went to a funeral together and she made some pretty innapropriate comments, which were supposed to be viewed as humour.  As being on the spectrum myself I understood why and I liked her '**** society' attitude, but a lot of people just seen it as rude and didn't want anything to do with her.  Unfortunately, some people are like that.  There isn't much we can do about it.  We can't make them be any other way as muc has we can't do it to someone on the AS.

    I suppose it depends on his mum's view on health support.  My gran had no problem going to the doctor.  Actually, she was there more than anywhere else.  So she was open to what was being said.  We bought her 'Asperger's for Dummies', which she enjoyed and related to.  It might be an idea getting some informatio nlike this, in a leaflet or book, if she isn't open to the idea.  Let her read it and see if she can relate to anything being said in it.

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