Aspergers or just doesn't give a fig...

Hi

I am struggling to understand the workings of my ex right now.  I like to think his callousness is because his aspergers prevents him from seeing the hurt he is causing rather than thinking he doesn't give a fig.  At least them it would seem a deliberate act on his part and something I could deal with.

anyway, he has recently had another child.  Our children have access to his social media website and it is full of gushing comments and photos of the half sibling.  There is never ever  any mention of our sons and any comments they post disappear rather quickly.  In fact I doubt many of his new circle of friends even know he has any other children.

It pains me to see him posting all these comments about his son that are then read by our sons, who never ever get a mention.  There are no pictures of our sons or comments about them, it's as if they don't exist in his new world.

I can't talk to my ex as he becomes extremely aggressive and doesn't see how favouring one child over his other children affects them.  Our sons have aspergers and although they have nothing against their half sibling I can see that they are hurt by how their father doesn't seem to give a fig about their feelings.  Our youngest didn't even get a birthday card or present last year.

I suppose I just wanted to know if this could be mindblindness or the signs of someone who as I said earlier doesn't give a fig.

Welcome your comments.

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  • Thanks for the replies.  It can be hard ignoring his behaviours as it has such a negative effect on our children.  When they miss  school because  they are sad about comments he posts such as their half sibling "is the most precious child in the whole world" it breaks my heart.  Has he no empathy whatsoever?

    I suppose I am angry because it is all so unnecessary and leaves scars that shouldn't be there.

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  • Thanks for the replies.  It can be hard ignoring his behaviours as it has such a negative effect on our children.  When they miss  school because  they are sad about comments he posts such as their half sibling "is the most precious child in the whole world" it breaks my heart.  Has he no empathy whatsoever?

    I suppose I am angry because it is all so unnecessary and leaves scars that shouldn't be there.

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