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Hatred and dread of Christmas

Bee68

[Please don't read this if you like Christmas, I don't want to upset anyone or criticise what they enjoy!!!]

I am only just recovering from last Christmas, and I'm painfully aware that in 4 months all the hype is going to start again.

I've started writing down and keeping notes every year about how dreadful I feel at Christmas, so that I know it's just an annual thing that happens every year and then passes (although it's taking it's own good time this year).

I HATE all the hypocrisy: the manipulative advertising, the "it's Christmas so we have to make sure the homeless are fed - we don't care about them at all the rest of the year" attitude from certain people who are extremely wealthy, the dreadful music, the way we're pushed into having to believe it's "the most wonderful time of the year".

I get panic attacks, I feel like the world is about to end. This goes on for weeks. I can't get out from under it, and nobody understands (including me) why I can't do that.

I avoid it as much as I can, and now I don't have young children that's quite easy when I'm at home.

I have had some serious trauma experiences in the past (40+ years ago) at Christmas time, but that doesn't explain it.

I think it's the HYPOCRISY! The lies about how beautiful and wonderful Christmas is, how it cures all ills, how everyone has to be nice to each other because it's Christmas - but the rest of the year they can get on with just ignoring / being nasty.

I'm really dreading next Christmas because this just seems to be getting worse.

I also really like all the lights, etc. If the whole thing only lasted a week, and the advertising wasn't so sickening, I think I would enjoy it.

Is it just me? Does anyone understand?

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  • I don't like Christmas much either since my wife passed away in 2016. When i got back in to work in 2020 I chose to work every Christmas being a Then Care assistant it took my mind off things. But this year will be different I'm now retired but my Niece god bless her will probably come and whisk me to hers for a meal on one of the days. Living in a retirement complex there maybe something going on but I'd be just as happy to stay on my own and although I'm not a brillaint cook I'd make my own bit of something. I'll probably just treat it as a normal period. No thrills or spills. 

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  • I don't like Christmas much either since my wife passed away in 2016. When i got back in to work in 2020 I chose to work every Christmas being a Then Care assistant it took my mind off things. But this year will be different I'm now retired but my Niece god bless her will probably come and whisk me to hers for a meal on one of the days. Living in a retirement complex there maybe something going on but I'd be just as happy to stay on my own and although I'm not a brillaint cook I'd make my own bit of something. I'll probably just treat it as a normal period. No thrills or spills. 

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  • in reply to Johnboy412000
    Johnboy412000 said:
    I'd make my own bit of something

    Yes, that's a very good way of making your day special. I make different things each year. Christmas cake is very expensive to make but a Dundee or Victoria Sandwich [marzipanned and iced] is just as tasty. And I always buy myself a present Tada, a tool, clothes, plants etc.  I'm sure your wife would want you to have a happy life and celebrations of all kinds are important.