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I need some advice

Bombshell93

I've known I've had aspergers syndrome for around 2 years now, apparently my parents have known for 10 years. They seem to think "I've grown out of it" and "I don't have it anymore" to semi-quote them.
I keep trying to explain to them how I feel around people, I can't tell if its fear or not but never the less its increadibly uncomfortable. I can only feel comfortable with people I know / have grown to know and the older I get the more discomfort I feel in general social situations.
I'm 18 at the moment naturally this is the time to get a job, but I've gotten to the point where I'm terrified to leave my house, I'm supposed to go into town and sign on for job seekers allowance today, but I don't know my way there, I'm freakign out, but I don't know what to do.
I've tried explainign to my parents I just don't think I could handle working with people, but to quote my father "Get it out of your head, there is nothing wrong with you". I'm stuck for words, I feel like I'm nagging if I try talking to my parents about it, but I can barely handle going to the dentists even with a parent, how am I supposed to keep myself calm when faced with a job, working with and for people.

Any and all advise would be appreciated I'm in a rough patch at the moment.
Thanks in advanced,
Bombshell

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  • hi bombshell93,

     I hope you can get the help and support you need, please follow all the advice that has been posted. It is important that you recieve the benifits like DLA that you are entitled to.

    Im a mum of 4 kids my eldest has AS and dyspraxia and we have known since he was born that he had difficulties like dyspraxia and hypotonia but he didnt recieve formal diagnosis of AS untill he turned 16 and most people except that he does have AS now but not many people understand. My youngest son is now going through the dx process and here im meeting a lot of ressistance from family members, telling me things like he is just immature and a bit hyper and a bit fidgety but "will grow out of it" i find it very frustrating that because my oldest also has physical problems they accept things far more easily with him, not that they help me they just arnt as negative about him.

    As a parent i do hope that i will be able to help and support all my children through the difficulties that you are facing, however i do understand that there are a lot of people  who arnt capable of giving this support to there family members. I hope that you will contact the services available to you and get support from them.

     

    Dont know if this has been any help to you, just wanted to add to other people who have posted that you are not alone.

    sam

    xx

     

     

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  • hi bombshell93,

     I hope you can get the help and support you need, please follow all the advice that has been posted. It is important that you recieve the benifits like DLA that you are entitled to.

    Im a mum of 4 kids my eldest has AS and dyspraxia and we have known since he was born that he had difficulties like dyspraxia and hypotonia but he didnt recieve formal diagnosis of AS untill he turned 16 and most people except that he does have AS now but not many people understand. My youngest son is now going through the dx process and here im meeting a lot of ressistance from family members, telling me things like he is just immature and a bit hyper and a bit fidgety but "will grow out of it" i find it very frustrating that because my oldest also has physical problems they accept things far more easily with him, not that they help me they just arnt as negative about him.

    As a parent i do hope that i will be able to help and support all my children through the difficulties that you are facing, however i do understand that there are a lot of people  who arnt capable of giving this support to there family members. I hope that you will contact the services available to you and get support from them.

     

    Dont know if this has been any help to you, just wanted to add to other people who have posted that you are not alone.

    sam

    xx

     

     

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