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I need some advice

Bombshell93

I've known I've had aspergers syndrome for around 2 years now, apparently my parents have known for 10 years. They seem to think "I've grown out of it" and "I don't have it anymore" to semi-quote them.
I keep trying to explain to them how I feel around people, I can't tell if its fear or not but never the less its increadibly uncomfortable. I can only feel comfortable with people I know / have grown to know and the older I get the more discomfort I feel in general social situations.
I'm 18 at the moment naturally this is the time to get a job, but I've gotten to the point where I'm terrified to leave my house, I'm supposed to go into town and sign on for job seekers allowance today, but I don't know my way there, I'm freakign out, but I don't know what to do.
I've tried explainign to my parents I just don't think I could handle working with people, but to quote my father "Get it out of your head, there is nothing wrong with you". I'm stuck for words, I feel like I'm nagging if I try talking to my parents about it, but I can barely handle going to the dentists even with a parent, how am I supposed to keep myself calm when faced with a job, working with and for people.

Any and all advise would be appreciated I'm in a rough patch at the moment.
Thanks in advanced,
Bombshell

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  • I can understand how frustrating and difficult it must be for you when those around you are unable to fully understand autism or accept it. 

    My son has AS and his grandparents will never accept it.  This is particularly difficult for my husband (his parents).  They are very insensitive and hurtful at times, however, after a long time, I have come to a stage of accepting it is their weakness and I feel sorry for them. 

    The world is changing and we are all part of the positive change that is occurring in the understanding and acceptance of difference.  Be proud of yourself and what you have already achieved.

    We are all right behind you, believe in yourself and take support wherever you find it.  You deserve it.  There is a massive community of people in the UK whose lives are touched by Autism and we should all be proud, but I understand, it takes time and support to get there.  Hold on to the positive support in your life - there is lots out there.

    Take care of yourself and well done taking those first steps for you.

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  • I can understand how frustrating and difficult it must be for you when those around you are unable to fully understand autism or accept it. 

    My son has AS and his grandparents will never accept it.  This is particularly difficult for my husband (his parents).  They are very insensitive and hurtful at times, however, after a long time, I have come to a stage of accepting it is their weakness and I feel sorry for them. 

    The world is changing and we are all part of the positive change that is occurring in the understanding and acceptance of difference.  Be proud of yourself and what you have already achieved.

    We are all right behind you, believe in yourself and take support wherever you find it.  You deserve it.  There is a massive community of people in the UK whose lives are touched by Autism and we should all be proud, but I understand, it takes time and support to get there.  Hold on to the positive support in your life - there is lots out there.

    Take care of yourself and well done taking those first steps for you.

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