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I need some advice

Bombshell93

I've known I've had aspergers syndrome for around 2 years now, apparently my parents have known for 10 years. They seem to think "I've grown out of it" and "I don't have it anymore" to semi-quote them.
I keep trying to explain to them how I feel around people, I can't tell if its fear or not but never the less its increadibly uncomfortable. I can only feel comfortable with people I know / have grown to know and the older I get the more discomfort I feel in general social situations.
I'm 18 at the moment naturally this is the time to get a job, but I've gotten to the point where I'm terrified to leave my house, I'm supposed to go into town and sign on for job seekers allowance today, but I don't know my way there, I'm freakign out, but I don't know what to do.
I've tried explainign to my parents I just don't think I could handle working with people, but to quote my father "Get it out of your head, there is nothing wrong with you". I'm stuck for words, I feel like I'm nagging if I try talking to my parents about it, but I can barely handle going to the dentists even with a parent, how am I supposed to keep myself calm when faced with a job, working with and for people.

Any and all advise would be appreciated I'm in a rough patch at the moment.
Thanks in advanced,
Bombshell

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  • Hi there,

    Just 2 let u know it will get better but just takes time.

    I have a similar issue with my family. My mum get autism though not to the level I need. She had help from other agencies, stuff I've printed out from NAS (in other languages). My brother is not so easily convienced. He accepts ASD finally. Though doesn't really understand how it impacts my understanding of certain situations and the usual triad of impairments stuff. This is despite having imput from different agencies and stuff I've told him. 

    I'm 18 too so get how ur feeling. When I try to act as a normal teenager they don't like it. When I act "autistic with OCDic" they don't like it. Its a lose lose situation @ the moment.

    Hopefully it will get better and sos to hear 'bout the Psych.

    Gr8t u went to the Job Centre - u need 2 reward ur self for every little positive thing u do - it does really really help.

    Also claim every benefit u can. Its there 4 a reason to help those who REALLY DO need it. And from what you've said about the job centre and not being able to get out of the house it might help.

    I will hopefully make a contribution to society through taxes when I get my job after I start my degree nxt yr.

    urspecial.

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  • Hi there,

    Just 2 let u know it will get better but just takes time.

    I have a similar issue with my family. My mum get autism though not to the level I need. She had help from other agencies, stuff I've printed out from NAS (in other languages). My brother is not so easily convienced. He accepts ASD finally. Though doesn't really understand how it impacts my understanding of certain situations and the usual triad of impairments stuff. This is despite having imput from different agencies and stuff I've told him. 

    I'm 18 too so get how ur feeling. When I try to act as a normal teenager they don't like it. When I act "autistic with OCDic" they don't like it. Its a lose lose situation @ the moment.

    Hopefully it will get better and sos to hear 'bout the Psych.

    Gr8t u went to the Job Centre - u need 2 reward ur self for every little positive thing u do - it does really really help.

    Also claim every benefit u can. Its there 4 a reason to help those who REALLY DO need it. And from what you've said about the job centre and not being able to get out of the house it might help.

    I will hopefully make a contribution to society through taxes when I get my job after I start my degree nxt yr.

    urspecial.

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