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I need some advice

Bombshell93

I've known I've had aspergers syndrome for around 2 years now, apparently my parents have known for 10 years. They seem to think "I've grown out of it" and "I don't have it anymore" to semi-quote them.
I keep trying to explain to them how I feel around people, I can't tell if its fear or not but never the less its increadibly uncomfortable. I can only feel comfortable with people I know / have grown to know and the older I get the more discomfort I feel in general social situations.
I'm 18 at the moment naturally this is the time to get a job, but I've gotten to the point where I'm terrified to leave my house, I'm supposed to go into town and sign on for job seekers allowance today, but I don't know my way there, I'm freakign out, but I don't know what to do.
I've tried explainign to my parents I just don't think I could handle working with people, but to quote my father "Get it out of your head, there is nothing wrong with you". I'm stuck for words, I feel like I'm nagging if I try talking to my parents about it, but I can barely handle going to the dentists even with a parent, how am I supposed to keep myself calm when faced with a job, working with and for people.

Any and all advise would be appreciated I'm in a rough patch at the moment.
Thanks in advanced,
Bombshell

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  • I managed to sign on for job seekers today. a big push for me, my parents were outside and it was a very short session, now all I need to do is go in for about a minute every 2 weeks. I've managed to calm myself about the situation.


    @ Hope
    I was diagnosed when I was 8 (10 years ago) but I was only told very recently when asking my mother about why I saw a psychiatrist (its a touchy subject because they are now my biggest phobia)

    @ wolfbear
    I don't think I'll sign up for DLA unless I get to a point where I stress as much as yesterday again.
    As for jobs, job seekers doesn't help you find jobs oddly enough, I only need to look for jobs and tell them I am. I think I'll look within my comfort zone, graphics and gaming programming.
    As for turning a hobby into a money maker, I can do a large variety of things on the computer (programming, web design, graphics) I just can't seem to find a way to turn them into money makers quickly. But I do have a long term project I'm working on with a friend which should lead us into our own independent games studio. (we've been planning for 3 years)

    Thank you everyone for the help,
    Just knowing there are people who understood my situation allowed me to calm down.
    I doubt I'd have slept while that worked up.

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  • I managed to sign on for job seekers today. a big push for me, my parents were outside and it was a very short session, now all I need to do is go in for about a minute every 2 weeks. I've managed to calm myself about the situation.


    @ Hope
    I was diagnosed when I was 8 (10 years ago) but I was only told very recently when asking my mother about why I saw a psychiatrist (its a touchy subject because they are now my biggest phobia)

    @ wolfbear
    I don't think I'll sign up for DLA unless I get to a point where I stress as much as yesterday again.
    As for jobs, job seekers doesn't help you find jobs oddly enough, I only need to look for jobs and tell them I am. I think I'll look within my comfort zone, graphics and gaming programming.
    As for turning a hobby into a money maker, I can do a large variety of things on the computer (programming, web design, graphics) I just can't seem to find a way to turn them into money makers quickly. But I do have a long term project I'm working on with a friend which should lead us into our own independent games studio. (we've been planning for 3 years)

    Thank you everyone for the help,
    Just knowing there are people who understood my situation allowed me to calm down.
    I doubt I'd have slept while that worked up.

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