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jenjen74

hello

im jen - i have a 13 year old son who under going consultation for asc finding the whole thing daunting.

he has a history of wanting to harm himself,violent agressive outbursts,conforms at school extrememly academic but looses it at home - there only me and also my daughter 9 who his sibling.

family dont want to know - don't agree with the process nor want to accept this could be a huge possibility.in their eyes he short of a good hiding and some severe discipline. I split from their dad nearly 3 years ago and a lot of things have come to light since,more so since nov 2013 as my son tried to take his own life with a blind cord a week before my ex took me to court regarding contact with the children,my sons excuse was he didnt want to see his dad and thought this was the answer,but obviously not - emergency crisis team at a&e got involved and from then everythin has spiralled.....

appointments with camhs, speech and language and so many more...

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    It sounds as though you are well and truly in the system now. Hopefully 'they' will have a plan of actions to help you and your son.

    Some of the things that might be useful in my opinion

    - you could go on a training course about how to manage and bring up an autistic child

    - your son will need something similar about how to manage with being on the autistic spectrum

    I know there are courses for parents of younger autitic children but don't know exactly what happens when the diagnosis happens at this age. Perhaps another community member will advise on this.

    The other thing to do is to read all about it. I have "Living Well on the Spectrum" by Valerie Gaus. This is a very practical and upbeat book about what the differences are and how to overcome some of the obstacles.

    He should be able to thrive in the right environment. It sounds as though the school is well prepared for people like him. I hope, and think you are on the right track already, you can make his home life as aspie friendly as you can. This doesn't mean giving in to him all of the time but you will have to work out boundaries and work, with him, to find out what works.

    :-)

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    It sounds as though you are well and truly in the system now. Hopefully 'they' will have a plan of actions to help you and your son.

    Some of the things that might be useful in my opinion

    - you could go on a training course about how to manage and bring up an autistic child

    - your son will need something similar about how to manage with being on the autistic spectrum

    I know there are courses for parents of younger autitic children but don't know exactly what happens when the diagnosis happens at this age. Perhaps another community member will advise on this.

    The other thing to do is to read all about it. I have "Living Well on the Spectrum" by Valerie Gaus. This is a very practical and upbeat book about what the differences are and how to overcome some of the obstacles.

    He should be able to thrive in the right environment. It sounds as though the school is well prepared for people like him. I hope, and think you are on the right track already, you can make his home life as aspie friendly as you can. This doesn't mean giving in to him all of the time but you will have to work out boundaries and work, with him, to find out what works.

    :-)

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