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jenjen74

hello

im jen - i have a 13 year old son who under going consultation for asc finding the whole thing daunting.

he has a history of wanting to harm himself,violent agressive outbursts,conforms at school extrememly academic but looses it at home - there only me and also my daughter 9 who his sibling.

family dont want to know - don't agree with the process nor want to accept this could be a huge possibility.in their eyes he short of a good hiding and some severe discipline. I split from their dad nearly 3 years ago and a lot of things have come to light since,more so since nov 2013 as my son tried to take his own life with a blind cord a week before my ex took me to court regarding contact with the children,my sons excuse was he didnt want to see his dad and thought this was the answer,but obviously not - emergency crisis team at a&e got involved and from then everythin has spiralled.....

appointments with camhs, speech and language and so many more...

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  • hiya 

    thank you all for your replies -helps knowing im not the only one - no formal diagnoses as yet!! yeah he knows wots goin on and why - but he doesnt understand why he feels different if that makes sense,yes all this has only come to light since the transition from junior school to secondary.

    i had to move his schools(secondary) in may as his previous school where saying it was me and my parenting skills and my approach to him,as they didnt see any problems with him as he is extremely academic and was achieving targets , my arguement was that was all well n good n was proud he was doin well but if his meltdowns amounted to him managing to take his own life would they have been there for me to help and support me with the loss of my child got no response 

    i changed his schools his demeanour has changed no rounded shoulders wanting to go to school rather than making every excuse under the sun not to go in,this school has listened,taken him on and treat him as he has asc - until the diagnoses arrives,he on the asc diagnostic panel waiting list to go to panel but a huge wait xxx

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  • hiya 

    thank you all for your replies -helps knowing im not the only one - no formal diagnoses as yet!! yeah he knows wots goin on and why - but he doesnt understand why he feels different if that makes sense,yes all this has only come to light since the transition from junior school to secondary.

    i had to move his schools(secondary) in may as his previous school where saying it was me and my parenting skills and my approach to him,as they didnt see any problems with him as he is extremely academic and was achieving targets , my arguement was that was all well n good n was proud he was doin well but if his meltdowns amounted to him managing to take his own life would they have been there for me to help and support me with the loss of my child got no response 

    i changed his schools his demeanour has changed no rounded shoulders wanting to go to school rather than making every excuse under the sun not to go in,this school has listened,taken him on and treat him as he has asc - until the diagnoses arrives,he on the asc diagnostic panel waiting list to go to panel but a huge wait xxx

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