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jenjen74

hello

im jen - i have a 13 year old son who under going consultation for asc finding the whole thing daunting.

he has a history of wanting to harm himself,violent agressive outbursts,conforms at school extrememly academic but looses it at home - there only me and also my daughter 9 who his sibling.

family dont want to know - don't agree with the process nor want to accept this could be a huge possibility.in their eyes he short of a good hiding and some severe discipline. I split from their dad nearly 3 years ago and a lot of things have come to light since,more so since nov 2013 as my son tried to take his own life with a blind cord a week before my ex took me to court regarding contact with the children,my sons excuse was he didnt want to see his dad and thought this was the answer,but obviously not - emergency crisis team at a&e got involved and from then everythin has spiralled.....

appointments with camhs, speech and language and so many more...

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Welcome!

    Yours is a common story on this forum but I would like to offer some hope that there are practical things to be done and there is support available that can help to improve his, and your, life.

    Severe discipline is the last thing your child needs. ASD sufferers benefit from consistency, quiet and unreasonably reasonable parenting. Don't promise or threaten something that you can't or won't follow through on. Don't shout, confront or intimidate but let him go and cool off in a quiet place if he boils over. He will need to know what the boundaries are so don't let him get away with things that you might regret.

    There is a lot to be learnt from the dicussion forum, just reading and taking part in the discussions can help you work out what you want to do and where to go for help.

    :-)

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Welcome!

    Yours is a common story on this forum but I would like to offer some hope that there are practical things to be done and there is support available that can help to improve his, and your, life.

    Severe discipline is the last thing your child needs. ASD sufferers benefit from consistency, quiet and unreasonably reasonable parenting. Don't promise or threaten something that you can't or won't follow through on. Don't shout, confront or intimidate but let him go and cool off in a quiet place if he boils over. He will need to know what the boundaries are so don't let him get away with things that you might regret.

    There is a lot to be learnt from the dicussion forum, just reading and taking part in the discussions can help you work out what you want to do and where to go for help.

    :-)

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