Deeply lonely but unable to speak to people

Hi,

I’m feeling really distressed at the moment. I feel like I am unable to have conversations with people in the way that others do… I have nothing to say. I think this has always been a problem for me but is probably even worse than normal at the moment because I am burnt out and depressed… but I feel deeply lonely. I think I have always been in my own little bubble of hyper fixating on things especially people-pleasing and so have been oblivious to the things other people are interested in… music, tv shows, what’s going on in the world etc… and I therefore have nothing really to talk about. I find watching tv and reading and listening to the radio too painful at the moment as it just highlights to me the conversations and relationships that others have that I feel I don’t. I’m trying to work out the solution constantly in my head to not being able to speak to people but not being able to take an interest in things that would give me more to talk about… just wondering if anyone can relate to this and has any suggestions? 

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  • Well done for being brave enough to talk about this. There is some good advice below, but I would say: Keep on trying, be kind to yourself, and remember that lots of people - many neurotrypical people - feel like this too. It is sad that so many people feel this way; but it helps to know you’re not on your own, and that there are plenty of people looking for connection, just like you.

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  • Well done for being brave enough to talk about this. There is some good advice below, but I would say: Keep on trying, be kind to yourself, and remember that lots of people - many neurotrypical people - feel like this too. It is sad that so many people feel this way; but it helps to know you’re not on your own, and that there are plenty of people looking for connection, just like you.

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