STAY WOKE

I'm woke in most areas except for one.  Having said that, I'm more multicultural than woke.  

You look at it in a very negative way. If you don’t speak up for yourself, then you lose before you even start.

No one will do it for you. You have to stop playing the victim and be proud of who you are. You can’t expect people to understand what you do/don’t like if you don’t state it directly.

People can’t guess what you are thinking, and under this post someone commented something which already stated that. “You can’t pick-apart the micro-aggressions”. Everyone is far too busy with their own problems and their own struggles to care about you and/or your feelings. So do the right, and difficult thing and look at your problem head-on so that you can figure out a solution.

Giving people the impression that you are the only one who struggles doesn’t help and only makes you appear weak. You’ll never be able to connect with someone if you immediately put this enormous amount of emotional-dependability on their shoulders, it’s not fair on others and it’s unrealistic.

Go outside, have a walk, change your diet. Play some sport. Do something big for someone small. Life is what you make it. You aren’t the victim. There are people who struggle the same amount that you do.

There should be balance. Awareness should come from both sides. The right need to learn that being a decent human being and accepting people for who they are isn't a crime, but the left also need to stop trying to force their ideologies on people who aren't willing to learn either. Somebody who doesn't want to change will not change and trying to force them to change will only cause them to double down!

You can't just pick apart what somebody says for every single possible micoraggression you can find because half the time they don't really mean anything by it, but at the same time, you can't be a bigot either. It's really not that hard! So why do people have such a hard time following that? Just be a decent human being and be kind to people that deserve kindness regardless of their race, gender or sexuality and use common sense! That's all that matters!

I don't know how to be anything other than woke, it's just part of who I am.

People may struggle with diagnosis, but often they're swapping one struggle with another, for instance if you struggle to be understood, then an autism diagnosis will tell you why its a struggle, but won't stop the struggle.

Sometimes it helps to think about life experiences as compost, they're past things, all the old potato peelings of life, they will rot down and help to create the life you have now and in the future. All those composted potato peelings will inform life now and in the future, but they're essentially gone in the shape they were in before, this sort of mental composting acknowleges that past and that you can't do anything to change it, they're no longer potato peelings but something new and transformed, your experiences can transform how you view the future, whilst still being authentically you.

I struggle with the ‘team’ aspects of work to the point where I cannot even get work. I am self employed and happy with what I do, I would prefer people didn’t get up and walk out of my interviews. Workplace power parties, group hugs with backs turned. I don’t expect anything anyone else doesn’t have, the fact I’m not treated like others could be classed as bullying or discrimination - although I’d probably not exercise that right. Before diagnosis I couldn’t anyway. I just feel like a lot of the workplace is not based on skill levels or qualifications to do a role, rather force and deception through different means.

Aware of these injustices, they are omnipresent. I’ve felt like I someone quite easily accept their diagnosis as a done deal and the behaviour towards them to be normalised.

If you are being bullied at work, that is not normal and there can be no excuse for it.

If and when you find yourself in the circumstance where NT people are grouping together (as is the norm) and leaving you out, then focus on yourself.

I have spent a long time finding work, and I have recently started work experience. I have found something that could be good for me. I am not naive and I am aware that the world changes when you least expect it to. I am adaptable, and I know my strengths.

But, I have decided to put myself in a work setting that is already inclusive to autistic people such as myself. I live by: use your strengths, focus on your weaknesses.

I recognise my extraordinary abilities, subsequently I use them to achieve.

If I was to put myself (god forbid) in a scenario where people do not understand me, or at least try to, then my view of myself would without a doubt switch very rapidly. A negative setting where people undermine you and talk about you, for their own social gain/benefit is not using your strengths and it is not valuing the skills that you possess.

You won’t be the same age again and you can’t take back the time that you lost. But don’t destroy the time that you have now focusing on what could have, should have been, because that is being unkind to your present-self. You owe it to yourself, out of self-respect, and discipline, to move forward from your past, remedy mistakes so that you avoid making them again, so that your life will change. If you fail to recognise that, you will be stuck where you were, and the pain from learning will have been for nothing.

Why woke?

I see that as a derogatory term and not really meaningful in this context.

Generally standing up for the rights of an individual, whatever the situation, is 'good' so I think I am in accord with your general sentiment.