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STAY WOKE

pietro_21

I have been thinking a lot recently about life experiences of people with autism, the things they grow up with and go through at work which go unchallenged.

For me these are injustices, I feel like I was mistreated and I know in a few cases employers were breaking the law. I feel a lot of injustice that I don't want to let go of, although I am not militant about it.

I see how society is slanted and opposed to how neurodiverse people operate, and neuro typical people are, in my experience, militant to defend what they view as their world.

Obviously late diagnosed peoples view of their legal (and human) rights differs as its only possible to see in hindsight.

There's things now I wouldn’t let happen again, but it is catch 22 because I will never be that same age or position again.

My main concern now is that Ii don't want to become desensitised to what I have learned, with diagnosis as awareness. People struggling at school or in the workplace, who may not know why.

Also not everyone wants or will be happy with a diagnosis, especially earlier in life. In some cases life is better not knowing and struggling. 

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  • in reply to pietro_21

    And you have these answers because you have lived a thousand lives and you’ve tried every possible job?

    There is a whole world out there.

    Not every workplace is “built on social-interactions” as you put it. Why do you think that some of the smartest thinkers in our history have been ND? Because they couldn’t navigate their way around working at the local Tesco helping poor little old Dorothy to find her prune-juice?

    No. It’s because unlike you, they recognised their own value in a world that clearly was not built to inhabit them. So, stop feeling sorry for yourself. Get outside, enjoy the air, enjoy many many things that you have been fortunate enough to use and see every single day, because there are an unlimited amount of ideas to think of and activities to do.

    Not everyone is as lucky as you to be in a comfortable-enough position to be able to say that they are self-employed, and still have the audacity to complain about how awful their own life is. You’re not the centre-of-the-universe. You are a small thing, in a small universe, which is part of something a lot bigger. And even that is tiny. Never let your ego tell you otherwise.

  • in reply to Geezamazinfella

    I'm definitely no shy about telling people what I think. I'm just saying that in reality the workplace is so off centre. My awareness of this was before a diagnosis.

    NT types have a social advantage, that the work place is build around social interactions.  This means in some cases they don't even have to do their job well. People promote more people like them, sad fact of life.

  • in reply to pietro_21

    You look at it in a very negative way. If you don’t speak up for yourself, then you lose before you even start.

    No one will do it for you. You have to stop playing the victim and be proud of who you are. You can’t expect people to understand what you do/don’t like if you don’t state it directly.

    People can’t guess what you are thinking, and under this post someone commented something which already stated that. “You can’t pick-apart the micro-aggressions”. Everyone is far too busy with their own problems and their own struggles to care about you and/or your feelings. So do the right, and difficult thing and look at your problem head-on so that you can figure out a solution.

    Giving people the impression that you are the only one who struggles doesn’t help and only makes you appear weak. You’ll never be able to connect with someone if you immediately put this enormous amount of emotional-dependability on their shoulders, it’s not fair on others and it’s unrealistic.

    Go outside, have a walk, change your diet. Play some sport. Do something big for someone small. Life is what you make it. You aren’t the victim. There are people who struggle the same amount that you do.