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I have been thinking a lot recently about life experiences of people with autism, the things they grow up with and go through at work which go unchallenged.

For me these are injustices, I feel like I was mistreated and I know in a few cases employers were breaking the law. I feel a lot of injustice that I don't want to let go of, although I am not militant about it.

I see how society is slanted and opposed to how neurodiverse people operate, and neuro typical people are, in my experience, militant to defend what they view as their world.

Obviously late diagnosed peoples view of their legal (and human) rights differs as its only possible to see in hindsight.

There's things now I wouldn’t let happen again, but it is catch 22 because I will never be that same age or position again.

My main concern now is that Ii don't want to become desensitised to what I have learned, with diagnosis as awareness. People struggling at school or in the workplace, who may not know why.

Also not everyone wants or will be happy with a diagnosis, especially earlier in life. In some cases life is better not knowing and struggling. 

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  • If you are being bullied at work, that is not normal and there can be no excuse for it.

    If and when you find yourself in the circumstance where NT people are grouping together (as is the norm) and leaving you out, then focus on yourself.

    I have spent a long time finding work, and I have recently started work experience. I have found something that could be good for me. I am not naive and I am aware that the world changes when you least expect it to. I am adaptable, and I know my strengths.

    But, I have decided to put myself in a work setting that is already inclusive to autistic people such as myself. I live by: use your strengths, focus on your weaknesses.

    I recognise my extraordinary abilities, subsequently I use them to achieve.

    If I was to put myself (god forbid) in a scenario where people do not understand me, or at least try to, then my view of myself would without a doubt switch very rapidly. A negative setting where people undermine you and talk about you, for their own social gain/benefit is not using your strengths and it is not valuing the skills that you possess.

    You won’t be the same age again and you can’t take back the time that you lost. But don’t destroy the time that you have now focusing on what could have, should have been, because that is being unkind to your present-self. You owe it to yourself, out of self-respect, and discipline, to move forward from your past, remedy mistakes so that you avoid making them again, so that your life will change. If you fail to recognise that, you will be stuck where you were, and the pain from learning will have been for nothing.

  • in reply to Geezamazinfella

    I struggle with the ‘team’ aspects of work to the point where I cannot even get work. I am self employed and happy with what I do, I would prefer people didn’t get up and walk out of my interviews. Workplace power parties, group hugs with backs turned. I don’t expect anything anyone else doesn’t have, the fact I’m not treated like others could be classed as bullying or discrimination - although I’d probably not exercise that right. Before diagnosis I couldn’t anyway. I just feel like a lot of the workplace is not based on skill levels or qualifications to do a role, rather force and deception through different means.

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  • in reply to Geezamazinfella

    I struggle with the ‘team’ aspects of work to the point where I cannot even get work. I am self employed and happy with what I do, I would prefer people didn’t get up and walk out of my interviews. Workplace power parties, group hugs with backs turned. I don’t expect anything anyone else doesn’t have, the fact I’m not treated like others could be classed as bullying or discrimination - although I’d probably not exercise that right. Before diagnosis I couldn’t anyway. I just feel like a lot of the workplace is not based on skill levels or qualifications to do a role, rather force and deception through different means.

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