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I should be proud because....

TheCatWoman

I'm often told that I should be proud of things like sporting achievements, but I hate sport and if it disapeared the only thing I'd notice was that my normal progames wern't being messed about because of it. It dosen't matter what sport is, mens, womens team or individual, I dont' care and I resent being told I should.

Can anyone give me a reason why I should care, because I really don't understand this national pride thing in sport, or much else to be honest.

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  • TheCatWoman said:
    Can anyone give me a reason why I should care

    The fact that so many people do care about sporting achievements means that there is a collective social involvement in them so by taking the stance that you think they are pointless then you are seen as belittling those who do care.

    Empathy is useful to be able to appreciate this in others. Offering platitudes without having to actually care is the easiest way to do this - the sort of reply like "that's nice, good for them" will typically be enough.

    I agree we should not be told what to care about but in a functional society there are unspoken rules or guidelines and it is safer to know these and not create friction through telling others how you feel.

    If is fair - no. Society is not necessarily fair but if we want to exist within it then taking time to understand it is hugely helpful to avoid making enemies. 

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  • TheCatWoman said:
    Can anyone give me a reason why I should care

    The fact that so many people do care about sporting achievements means that there is a collective social involvement in them so by taking the stance that you think they are pointless then you are seen as belittling those who do care.

    Empathy is useful to be able to appreciate this in others. Offering platitudes without having to actually care is the easiest way to do this - the sort of reply like "that's nice, good for them" will typically be enough.

    I agree we should not be told what to care about but in a functional society there are unspoken rules or guidelines and it is safer to know these and not create friction through telling others how you feel.

    If is fair - no. Society is not necessarily fair but if we want to exist within it then taking time to understand it is hugely helpful to avoid making enemies. 

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  • in reply to Iain

    I usually find telling them to do something with lots of FF's in works fairly well, but then I'm curmugeonly and misanthropic.

    I can do the good for them stuff, but people know I'm not being authentic, its the same when people read me thier poetry and I don't understand what on earth their on about.

    If somebody want to make me into an enemy over sport then they're not the sort of person who I want to be around and I doubt if they'd want to be around me either. In a game of us and them I usually win by default because I just don't care enough