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When someone winks at you, is it patronising or are they fond of you in some way?

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This is random and maybe a stupid question, but on an occasion when someone winks at me, I don’t know what to make of it. The conversations I’ve had where I’ve been winked at I didn’t do anything particularly amazing, in fact I think was probably a bit awkward, which is why I’m a bit baffled.

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  • A wink can have a lot of different meanings depending on context, how it is performed and the culture of people involved.

    A slow wink in a smallish group setting in a bar for example can signify some sort of collusion between the person talking and who they are looking at (eg " I told the policeman I had not taken any drugs" meaning they had but were lying) or it could be flirty and signal naughty intentions if the conversation was about relationships or connected activities.

    If it is in a formal setting where a colleague is getting told off for something they didn't do but were taking the blame for to protect you then it can signify solidarity and appreciation.

    I read that in some African cultures it is a signal used from parents to children that it is time to leave the room in a social setting to let the grown-ups talk.

    There is a good reason that it is hard to understand because it is hugely nuanced and it is not just neurodivergent people who struggle with it.

    I find that if I do not understand then the best response is to give a puzzled look which typically makes the sender find a way of being more direct.

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  • A wink can have a lot of different meanings depending on context, how it is performed and the culture of people involved.

    A slow wink in a smallish group setting in a bar for example can signify some sort of collusion between the person talking and who they are looking at (eg " I told the policeman I had not taken any drugs" meaning they had but were lying) or it could be flirty and signal naughty intentions if the conversation was about relationships or connected activities.

    If it is in a formal setting where a colleague is getting told off for something they didn't do but were taking the blame for to protect you then it can signify solidarity and appreciation.

    I read that in some African cultures it is a signal used from parents to children that it is time to leave the room in a social setting to let the grown-ups talk.

    There is a good reason that it is hard to understand because it is hugely nuanced and it is not just neurodivergent people who struggle with it.

    I find that if I do not understand then the best response is to give a puzzled look which typically makes the sender find a way of being more direct.

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