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Conflicted about work

profdanger

So I am stuck in a weird situation. I currently work as an employment specialist, where I work with people with disabilities find and keep employment, and this job is working out pretty great for me. But I just found a job working with LGBTQ+ youth in my area that sounds just as, if not more, great. Both jobs have the same net pay, both have benefits, and both are in the same town. One big difference is the LGBTQ+ one is part-time, so less hours for the same net pay. However, I’ll still list the positives and negatives of both jobs:

DISABILITIES EMPLOYMENT SPECIALIST
Pros: Using my Autism as a resource, great coworkers, stable position, personal office, good/flexible hours, 
Cons: Sometimes I deal with intense behaviors (ex. shouting, punching, etc), pressure is high to find jobs in a timely manner, lots of traveling in my car, sometimes I take work home with me (some clients like to call/text me after working hours)

LGBTQ+ CLIENT SPECIALIST
Pros: Something I’ve dreamed of doing for a while now, three day weekends, possibility of picking up another part-time job, less traveling, likely less calls after work
Cons: Might be evenings (which could interfere with raising my kids), unknown about coworkers/office/stability, possibly need to plan events/activities, leaving my current job will leave a LOT of chaos for my current coworkers

So according to me? It’s a tie. I still need to get an official interview for the LGBTQ+ job, so maybe that would answer some of my concerns about stability and such, but right now I’m really torn. My wife is leaning towards employment specialist because we know it works and she is worried about me being absent four nights of the week. Do you have any advice or insight I could use?

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  • I don’t think I’m best placed to offer insight or advice on employment, but I thought if I jiggled your pros and cons around a bit and switched your emphasis slightly on specific points, it might be a change of perspective.

    Analysing your response, the pros look to be stronger in the LGBTQ+ Client Specialist  job than in your current position. I’m basing this purely on it potentially being your dream job, so I haven’t considered the benefits of the reduced hours, less travelling, and the salary beyond this point. 

    The cons of the LGBTQ+ Client Specialist job are the potential evening work, unknown working environment with clients and co-workers, stability and activity/event planning.

    As you mentioned, you could find out more about the job requirements during the interview. You may find that the evening work would be less than four nights per week and the job is stable. That might leave cons of only some evenings at work, your unknown working environment with your co-workers and potential issues with activity/event planning. On the other hand, you might find that should you take the job, most or all of these cons wouldn’t materialise.

    Your wife’s views and your consideration of your children’s upbringing are valid. You both know you have a great job already, and going into an unfamiliar and different working environment could be a risk, also because there wouldn’t be control over colleagues’ potentially bad behaviour, should you encounter such a thing.

    You would need to consider how you would be placed if the new job didn’t work out. How would you feel, could you get a new job easily etc?

    I have heard it said that people regret not doing something, more than doing something and making a mistake (or it not working out).

    If you didn’t follow your dream and give the new job a go, would you always regret it?

    I hope things become clear to you whatever you decide to do and I wish you well.

  • in reply to ArchaeC
    ArchaeC said:
    You would need to consider how you would be placed if the new job didn’t work out. How would you feel, could you get a new job easily etc?

    This is fantastic advice. I think I’d easily be able to work at my current employer again, but not necessarily in the same position. I have GREAT rapport with my current job’s HR, so she’d hire me back in a heartbeat. There’s also the chance that I could find something closer to home (both my current job and this potential job are 35 mins away from home). So I don’t think I’d be sunk if the job didn’t work out. Thank you for bringing that up, I needed to think that one through!

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  • in reply to ArchaeC
    ArchaeC said:
    You would need to consider how you would be placed if the new job didn’t work out. How would you feel, could you get a new job easily etc?

    This is fantastic advice. I think I’d easily be able to work at my current employer again, but not necessarily in the same position. I have GREAT rapport with my current job’s HR, so she’d hire me back in a heartbeat. There’s also the chance that I could find something closer to home (both my current job and this potential job are 35 mins away from home). So I don’t think I’d be sunk if the job didn’t work out. Thank you for bringing that up, I needed to think that one through!

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