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Cloudbaby1975

I asked my Dad to complete questionnaires with me as part of my right to choose assessment. He decided to complete them by himself and basically reported that there are no issues. I’m not surprised by this, he is completely unaware of my issues as is my mother. They are both autistic in my opinion. I’m so upset as I think this will go against me. I don’t have any evidence to support problems in childhood. I found the whole experience triggering and invalidating. A life time of feeling misunderstood. My friend suggested that my brother come to my assessment with me, he is autistic. I feel funny having him in there with me as I want to talk about personal things and not to have to censor myself around him. 

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  • I’m sorry, that is disappointing your father didn’t respond honestly. This is exactly why I believe assessments should not have a portion for childhood experiences. I wonder, is there any possibility your friend could go with? Even if they cannot support much in terms of giving information about your past, they can support by making you more comfortable during the assessment. And it might be less awkward than bringing your brother.

  • in reply to profdanger

    Thanks for responding. I think from his point of view he was being honest. I’ve been masking heavily my whole life. My husband has agreed to write something supportive and to attend the assessment with me. It surprised me how I upset I was when my Dad responded how he did. I had hoped there would be a level of shared understanding. I know my experience isn’t unusual. It will be what it will be. I’ve written pretty solid report so hopefully there’s enough evidence to go on. 

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  • in reply to profdanger

    Thanks for responding. I think from his point of view he was being honest. I’ve been masking heavily my whole life. My husband has agreed to write something supportive and to attend the assessment with me. It surprised me how I upset I was when my Dad responded how he did. I had hoped there would be a level of shared understanding. I know my experience isn’t unusual. It will be what it will be. I’ve written pretty solid report so hopefully there’s enough evidence to go on. 

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