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Cloudbaby1975

I asked my Dad to complete questionnaires with me as part of my right to choose assessment. He decided to complete them by himself and basically reported that there are no issues. I’m not surprised by this, he is completely unaware of my issues as is my mother. They are both autistic in my opinion. I’m so upset as I think this will go against me. I don’t have any evidence to support problems in childhood. I found the whole experience triggering and invalidating. A life time of feeling misunderstood. My friend suggested that my brother come to my assessment with me, he is autistic. I feel funny having him in there with me as I want to talk about personal things and not to have to censor myself around him. 

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  • In my (private) assessment I tried to keep my parents out of it as they are old, but they wanted to help and the person wanted to talk to them. They said in their questionnaire there were no particular issues, but it was a long term me ago. They were also spoken to.

    It didn't affect my (positive) result. The assessor should weight subjective evidence in your favour as you know what you feel. If they see evidence of masking they can make allowances.

    It is possible she noticed my parents are atypical so viewed their feedback in that light.

    But in my case they had decided I was autistic before starting so it was just a question of gathering enough evidence, so I don't know if it is representative.

    The main point being it doesn't necessarily go against you. If they think your parents are, you would expect them to see nothing. Try to keep an open mind.

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  • In my (private) assessment I tried to keep my parents out of it as they are old, but they wanted to help and the person wanted to talk to them. They said in their questionnaire there were no particular issues, but it was a long term me ago. They were also spoken to.

    It didn't affect my (positive) result. The assessor should weight subjective evidence in your favour as you know what you feel. If they see evidence of masking they can make allowances.

    It is possible she noticed my parents are atypical so viewed their feedback in that light.

    But in my case they had decided I was autistic before starting so it was just a question of gathering enough evidence, so I don't know if it is representative.

    The main point being it doesn't necessarily go against you. If they think your parents are, you would expect them to see nothing. Try to keep an open mind.

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