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is it his autism or is he just being a nasty spoilt pig?

skittles

Hi its my first time ever bieng on an autistic forum, I decided to sign up to it as things are pretty bad and wondered if anyone could help me make sense of things??

il start by saying I have a 15 yr old brother who has autism and ocd. I am 23 and I now live in my own place with my 4yr old and another on the way. 

I have always been called my brothers 'mini mum' as I have always been very very protective of him, it was always me and him.

without going into too much detail I now feel very resentful towards him, sometimes I purely hate him!  He just comes across to me as such a d***!! Hes ignorant,rude,nasty,spoilt and attitudey!

my mums always in tears and I can see its draining him which makes me hate him evenmore!

My mum says its his autism but how I see it is if it was really autism then he wud not be able toachoose hu he was nice and not nice to!

Anyone think they could share any insights/experience/advice???

thanks skittles x

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    Your brother is a teenage boy who will act as teenage boys will. He isn't yet grown up but will be tired of being dealt with as a child. On top of this, he also has autism which means that he will be even more awkward and confused about how to deal with the world.

    One thing that he will find particularly hard will be adjusting his behaviour and keeping a civil tongue in his head. He might be being excessively blunt because he can't help it.

    If you always looked after him then have you made the change from treating him as a child to treating him as an adult? He might treat you better if you try using more persuasion and less instruction.

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    Your brother is a teenage boy who will act as teenage boys will. He isn't yet grown up but will be tired of being dealt with as a child. On top of this, he also has autism which means that he will be even more awkward and confused about how to deal with the world.

    One thing that he will find particularly hard will be adjusting his behaviour and keeping a civil tongue in his head. He might be being excessively blunt because he can't help it.

    If you always looked after him then have you made the change from treating him as a child to treating him as an adult? He might treat you better if you try using more persuasion and less instruction.

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