Funny Old World and how people are?

I think I might have been or am in the process of being dropped by a friend, she's recently got a new partner and I've gone from being an any day of the week friend, to a weekday only friend and now it sppears to a sometimes person I'll go for a dog walk with. 

The bit thats confusing me is that I feel nothing and I'm more concerned about not feeling upset or hurt or whistful or anything, I just feel OK with it, almost relieved, its one less person to care about, I mean I still care about her and would never turn her away, but I don't have to care on a day to day level.

There used to be a roup of us who would meet in the park for dog walks, now some people have moved away, one's fallen out with us all and it was just the two of us left, now it seems just me. I've often noticed that when people get in relationships female friends in particular are dropped, it seem that one is often relegted to weekdays only or weekday daytimes only, as weekends and bank holidays are reserved for the partner. I can't imagine being like that, but then maybe it's a part of NT behaviour I dont' understand? Or something to do with relationships? I've often noticed that the partners of friends seldom like me, especially when I've been single, it seem that many couples can have a "third wheel " quite happily as long as it a male friend which always seems odd to me, but woe betide the third wheel who get a partner, then that partner will be hated and either one or both will be driven away.

I think I'll stick with my animal friends, they're much less complicated.

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  • Going off on a different but related topic, the tourists are here. I've had another couple of run in's with other dog walkers since last weeks fall, which I've still not recovered from.

    I'm running out of "safe" places to walk again. It's horrible watching Fearn grow from a loving and confident puppy into a dog who's nervous around other dogs and humans, despite everything I do to reassure her it's all OK. When she's gone, which hopefully won't be for a few years yet, I won't get another dog other people have taken all the pleasure out of it and it's just becoming overwhelmingly stressful, I'm thinking of taking her to a psychologist, but from what I've seen on tv programs and stuff I'm doing everything right.

  • nervous around other dogs and humans

    This must be commonplace because there's a specialist shop for nervous dog signs

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