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3 Good Things - Round 4

Desmond1979

Since the third thread of gratitudes is redacted, I'll create a new one;

1. Managed to get a Sunday Lunch, at a local Spar, while supplies were available.

2. Got Manure, off my Mechanic, for growing Spuds; at his Stable.

3. Listened to a Podcast Interview of a Man who talked about Sticks used in Ireland; back in the days.

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  • in reply to Hergé

    It is also about you- easy to feel like this when you’re feeling low and depleted by it all. Ask for help from anyone you can so you can have some recovery time and this might help. I’m sure your wife would agree. It’s even harder for men as it can be extra tricky to talk about feelings. Counselling can also be an option but you may not feel you have time for this right now. Thinking of you and your wife and I hope session four goes well and you both keep well and safe as can be. 

  • in reply to Hergé

    Nothing to be sorry for- I lost my husband to cancer in my 20s and he went through treatments for 2.5 years and lots of ups and downs so I get the exhausting journey of it all. Have you looked at getting yourself some support- I didn’t then realised in hind sight it could have helped- macmillan run groups and an online forum and I actually met a friend through this and it was great mutual Support as she understood.  Other one is contact your local carers centre as they have groups and also can help with financial bits if needed. I remember the hospital had a benefits officer too as as much as it was last thing on my mind, we still had bills to pay so all these wee supports can help. I contacted my gp practice and they were able to put a referral in for a macmillan outreach nurse through our local hospice who could help with wee bits like speeding up prescriptions. I’d definite recommend speaking to your GP if you’re struggling. I have been on anti depressants ever since loosing my husband due to the impact of the rollercoaster though I was very resistant as I am also autistic so I can view things in black and white way. It aaa super hard going through it as a carer who was also undiagnosed autistic woman.  I am now late diagnosed at 42. There was a lot of interaction for me between coping with and processing his illness and being autistic as I masked a lot at hospital and looked like I was coping more than I was. The focus tends to be on the person who is sick but you have to also look after your own health too. 

  • in reply to Jenni123

    Thank you. She really struggles for 2 weeks and then has a better week only to start over. This is session 4 out of 6. Hopefully it's doing what it's supposed to do and we get a positive outcome.  Have to admit that I'm finding it really difficult, the thought or prospect of losing her is weighing really heavily.

    I'm definitely a glass half empty sort of person and this is really causing me some difficulties and this makes me guilty, as it's not about me at all.

    Sorry.