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Confusion around sexuality

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I wasn’t sure what thread to put this under as I haven’t used the website on here in a while. I’ve been questioning my sexuality, I’m a  21 year old female and i haven’t dated properly but i find myself drawn to the same sex.

The problem is I can’t tell if I’m attracted to the opposite sex or due to the fact it’s difficult for me to identity what emotions I’m feeling, i just convince myself i am. 

I am not so sure how to approach this issue.

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  • Do you think there's a possibility that you feel society expects you be to be attracted to the opposite sex so you have tried to mentally convince yourself you are? I only say this as people often talk about being confused about sexuality when they feel they are attracted to the same sex but I've never heard a straight person say they are confused about their sexuality when they are attracted to the opposite sex. I think even with the growing acceptance of differences in sexuality people still feel this subconscious pressure of society to be "normal". Perhaps you might be attracted to both sexes. 

    I honestly don't think you need to spend much time figuring it out. I don't think you need to name your sexuality and I don't think it has to be one thing or the other. If you want to then that's obviously fine. But I think just enjoy the feeling when you do feel attracted to someone and if you do find yourself in the world of dating, date who feels comfortable to you what ever their sex may be.

    I don't know whether any of that was helpful to you. I know these things can be more difficult emotionally than I am making it sound. I just think these things can be over thought.

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  • Do you think there's a possibility that you feel society expects you be to be attracted to the opposite sex so you have tried to mentally convince yourself you are? I only say this as people often talk about being confused about sexuality when they feel they are attracted to the same sex but I've never heard a straight person say they are confused about their sexuality when they are attracted to the opposite sex. I think even with the growing acceptance of differences in sexuality people still feel this subconscious pressure of society to be "normal". Perhaps you might be attracted to both sexes. 

    I honestly don't think you need to spend much time figuring it out. I don't think you need to name your sexuality and I don't think it has to be one thing or the other. If you want to then that's obviously fine. But I think just enjoy the feeling when you do feel attracted to someone and if you do find yourself in the world of dating, date who feels comfortable to you what ever their sex may be.

    I don't know whether any of that was helpful to you. I know these things can be more difficult emotionally than I am making it sound. I just think these things can be over thought.

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