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AutisticBeaut2025

Hello! 

How come you get people who are aware that they are autistic and feel relieved when they finally get diagnosed then on the other end of the line you get people who are totally unaware that they are yet neurotypical people can see that they are but they can't? If they were to find out that they were then then they may have a completely different reaction i.e. be upset or take a little longer to let it sink in. Does this make sense?

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  • How do you know what other people think or feel? When they see red what do they see, when they feel pain what do they really feel, when they feel love what is it like? You can't know. So if you think differently how do you know?

    If you do something obvious, both you and others can see it. Stimming, frequent shutdowns, then you know.

    But if is subtle and you adapted since before 5 to fit in, how would you know this is not normal?

    Until you burnout of have some other problem it is hard. Communication differences look like quirky behaviour. There is normal variation.

    If you camouflage well you mostly fit in, what is there to say there's a problem. If nobody says anything why would you think there was. So you don't have many friends, that is not proof.

    You also only know your life, so you minimise your struggles, because they have always been there.

    Self awareness is hard, what advantage is there to thinking you're different when you have spent your life trying to fit in and learn all the rules.

    But when you do find out it can be uncomfortable.

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  • How do you know what other people think or feel? When they see red what do they see, when they feel pain what do they really feel, when they feel love what is it like? You can't know. So if you think differently how do you know?

    If you do something obvious, both you and others can see it. Stimming, frequent shutdowns, then you know.

    But if is subtle and you adapted since before 5 to fit in, how would you know this is not normal?

    Until you burnout of have some other problem it is hard. Communication differences look like quirky behaviour. There is normal variation.

    If you camouflage well you mostly fit in, what is there to say there's a problem. If nobody says anything why would you think there was. So you don't have many friends, that is not proof.

    You also only know your life, so you minimise your struggles, because they have always been there.

    Self awareness is hard, what advantage is there to thinking you're different when you have spent your life trying to fit in and learn all the rules.

    But when you do find out it can be uncomfortable.

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