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When do you say enough is enough!

qcdj2009

My son has just been diagnosed with ASD and already has ADHD. What we as a family are struggling with is when he is being 'naughty' and when it is not necessarily under his control.

When do you get to the point when you say enough is enough? He has just got back from his Dad's and said my Dad says I don;t have ADHD and I don't need my mediaction. I just don't know how I'm supposed to compete against someone who is always telling hom different.

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  • Hi qcdj2009,

      I can only go with my own experience, but for me the parenting of a child with ASD and ADHD needs to be firm and consistant.

    If my son senses a grey area he's awash with confusion and anxiety, additionally he questions a parents authority. At 10, your son is still a little young to know whats best for him.

    Parenting is a delicate balance for the most able of us and striking an understanding between a childs genuine expression and what's right for them can be difficult, however he still needs the guidlines to which he will have to live life in the adult world. 'No' has to mean 'No' and these princples have to be taught for the child to have some framework and familiarity in later life.

    If my sons routine is changed confussion and anxiety results. I know it's difficult as a single parent, but you need to be firm and consistant. When familiarity is established things become less fraught in my experience.

    It may help to find a ASD support group in your area. Knowing you are not alone in some of the daily challenges you face can be the first step to finding the remedies that suit you. Remember no one person has all the answers and what suits one childs behaviors will not always suit another. It really is a matter of trying things and seeing what works for you.

    Regards

    Coogybear

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  • Hi qcdj2009,

      I can only go with my own experience, but for me the parenting of a child with ASD and ADHD needs to be firm and consistant.

    If my son senses a grey area he's awash with confusion and anxiety, additionally he questions a parents authority. At 10, your son is still a little young to know whats best for him.

    Parenting is a delicate balance for the most able of us and striking an understanding between a childs genuine expression and what's right for them can be difficult, however he still needs the guidlines to which he will have to live life in the adult world. 'No' has to mean 'No' and these princples have to be taught for the child to have some framework and familiarity in later life.

    If my sons routine is changed confussion and anxiety results. I know it's difficult as a single parent, but you need to be firm and consistant. When familiarity is established things become less fraught in my experience.

    It may help to find a ASD support group in your area. Knowing you are not alone in some of the daily challenges you face can be the first step to finding the remedies that suit you. Remember no one person has all the answers and what suits one childs behaviors will not always suit another. It really is a matter of trying things and seeing what works for you.

    Regards

    Coogybear

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