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34 and newly diagnosed

Gems91

Hi my name is gemma I live in the west Midlands and ive just been diagnosed with autism at the age of 34

I am single parent to a 11 year old son who also has autism and adhd. Since my assessment i have been struggling to come to terms with this exam tho I knew I was autistic. I feel like ive become more closed off and gone in on myself the past month or so. Any advice ? Thankyou 

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  • Hi Gemma, welcome!

    Me and my son (11) also just got diagnosed (though I have a hsuband and daughter too), and yeah I can totally relate to what you are expressing.  I think being so aware of your traits suddenly makes you feel really self conscious of it and can make masking it like you might have been previously suddenly a lot harder. 

    Do you have any support from family? My husband's been my support and is trying to understand it all as we work out what is best for us. I feel for you if you are a single parent going through this.

    It feels very weird to suddenly be given a 'life long' disability, when at times I feel completely fine. But then I remember the times i am not fine, and it helps me remember why I went through the process. It also helps me relate to my son (and daughter as I think she is too), so it's good as a way to talk and explain. And also to compare our difficulties, as by being a little more open with the things I find difficult, they can feel less weird about their own quirks.  

    Although I find talking out loud about it difficult, chatting on the forum helps me relate to others. The report feels so negative about the things I am not good at (including stuff I didn't know I wasn't typical at), it can be hard at times.

    Have you read any books about it? That helps too.  

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  • Hi Gemma, welcome!

    Me and my son (11) also just got diagnosed (though I have a hsuband and daughter too), and yeah I can totally relate to what you are expressing.  I think being so aware of your traits suddenly makes you feel really self conscious of it and can make masking it like you might have been previously suddenly a lot harder. 

    Do you have any support from family? My husband's been my support and is trying to understand it all as we work out what is best for us. I feel for you if you are a single parent going through this.

    It feels very weird to suddenly be given a 'life long' disability, when at times I feel completely fine. But then I remember the times i am not fine, and it helps me remember why I went through the process. It also helps me relate to my son (and daughter as I think she is too), so it's good as a way to talk and explain. And also to compare our difficulties, as by being a little more open with the things I find difficult, they can feel less weird about their own quirks.  

    Although I find talking out loud about it difficult, chatting on the forum helps me relate to others. The report feels so negative about the things I am not good at (including stuff I didn't know I wasn't typical at), it can be hard at times.

    Have you read any books about it? That helps too.  

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