Why me? Why does it always happen to me?

Thanks Marianne. I’ve had a bad few weeks with a lot of interrupted sleep - so I was feeling rather sensitive and was too reactive. The Catwoman is entirely within her rights to express her frustration with what she perceives as unhelpful advice. We all have different approaches to our problems and toothache isn’t exactly great for the mood or one’s patience. I was feeling pretty irritable myself so can relate to her frustration. 

TheCatWoman said:

the abcess seems to have found a way through my sinus's and is discharging down my nose and dripping down the back of throat

So you now have effectively an open wound exposed to all the bacteria in your sinuses?

I would get myself to A&E if I was you and get antibiotics ASAP.

Not to offer medical advice or anything but it sounds like your risk factors have just jumped hugely.

That sounds... Interesting? If it gets any worse, or you get feverish, please call 111, I would say! 

Also the dentist should have an emergency line? I would probably end up waiting till Monday too, but I know I don't make the best decisions in these cases!

No, I tried the doctor, when I got through 10 mins after the appointment opening time, they were all gone.

This afternoon I phoned the dentist, after wondering why they hadn't called me back after I lef tthem a message yesterday afternoon, they were shut for the weekend.

I don't know if this is good or not, its certainly gross, but the abcess seems to have found a way through my sinus's and is discharging down my nose and dripping down the back of throat, it tastes rank, really really rank. But most of the swelling has gone down, so I suppose it will keep until monday?

I'll let you lot carry on talking about me "behind my back" lol You seem to be explaining me better than I could.

pietro_21 said:

you are offering a fall back from her remarks being challenged within the rules of the community.

I have re-read the thread here and I honestly don't see what would have triggered your ire over the comments.

I there is some ongoing beef between you and I'm missing something then I apologise.

I don't detect malice in the comments but I have been largely absent from here the last few weeks so am not up to date with all the goings on.

TheCatWoman has always been somewhat of a "spikey" character, has strong opinions and can deal death to technology with a mere look but I try to look at this as just another example of autistic communication differences.

If the rules are broken then please report the posts and the mods will have a word with her - they are getting good at keeping on top if things with their new hires.

• Sorry Iain I disagree with you on this occasion  threads such aasthese are being used to dramatise an online persona and you are offering a fall back from her remarks being challenged within the rules of the community.

Thank you Iain.

pietro_21 said:

She’s made similar impulsive slights at me when I have posted so perhaps she should be more careful if she doesn’t wish to be perceived as some sort of disingenuous troll.

TheCatWoman is not a troll, just a human being and an autist and like many of them she has a life of complex experiences that have shaped her personality to what it is.

She can be a bit challenging at times (as can I) in her social interactions but I have known her for quite a long time now and I feel no sense of mailice there.

We both come from a generation that is more likely to speak their mind and this can often unintentionally offend. I would say it better to learn about these different ways of communicating than taking offence as it stops you going into challenge / response mode and sometimes saying something out of your nature.

In an ideal world people would not say hurtful things but then people would also not take hurt at things that were not meant to. A healthy survival instinct is to let it wash over you if you are unsure if it was a direct insult.

In essence, Vive la différence.

Oh the snow wellies sound lovely (⁠•⁠‿⁠•⁠)

She’s made similar impulsive slights at me when I have posted so perhaps she should be more careful if she doesn’t wish to be perceived as some sort of disingenuous troll.

TheCatWoman said:

wish me to take a more spiritual path

Kate Kestrel said:

it feels a bit like a bit of a dig at me

No, it isn't a dig at you, Kate. The Cat woman was only expressing that you and I made a similar suggestion about a psychological/spiritual perspective. She is really frustrated by this problem so it probably not ready to look at this aspect yet.

To clarify - the 2nd arrow and Stoic reflection are the origins of what psychologists turned into cognitive behavioural therapy. Changing what you think about something DOES have a marked effect on how you feel - this is a useful exercise at any time but doesn't preclude pursuing other solutions! 

What I nightmare, I know you said you can't take a lot of things due to allergies, I hope you manage to get something fairly quickly tomorrow.

I was supposed to go and have a tooth removed today but the dentist is ill. I need some antibiotics as my face is starting to swell, I will have to do the 8am lottery for a GP appt and hope they will give me some, the pharmacy can't and can only give me painkillers I'm allergic too. I'm hoping they don't send me back to the dentist as a perscription costs £20 or I have to wait for the emergency dentists, I'm not even sure we have any anymore?

The computer at our local library are so old and knackered I don't know if they even have camera's or the bandwidth to cope with them. The library like much of the rest of Llangefni is a bit of a blackspot and signal is sporadic, sometimes the staff can't get online either as it's too slow or cuts out.

Just had a thought - if you nip to your local library they would help with computer camera and image searching, if you take your boots. They are the few these days who are keen to help!

Thanks Marianne, but I dont' know how to do any of that stuff, I really am terrible with computers or any other sort of tech. I've had so much stuff go wrong over the years that I've become very wary of doing anything new in case it goes horribly wrong and I can't get out of it. You'd not believe the amount of stuff I've lost, or the computer has frozen on a page that I never asked for, ctrl, alt del, dosen't work, escape neither, turning the thing off and on again, the tech guys at uni took to hiding if they saw me coming with anything that looked like a laptop bag.

Thanks for the suggestions Lonehare, but I will try glue first.

if we're doing welly recommendations 

I can't tolerate when rubber boots rub on my calves but found a brand called Jileon that are specifically wide calf boots. jileon.com.

for a cheaper emergency welly ive also bought supermarket wellies in the past and cut the tops off.  And once i had "snow wellies" that are like wellies up to just above the ankle and then soft, fur lined and lace up

I’ve just re-read this comment and it feels a bit like a bit of a dig at me. I was just trying to be helpful. 

Hi TheCatWoman I used to wear this brand when I was working with horses. They are expensive but I've found some that are on offer at £70 with plenty of sizes. There is also a pair at £60 but it has a tartan stripe up the back of the boot.

Just Goole Welly Warehouse. These boots have shaping around the ankles too. I used to find them quite narrow. They do wear well and are nice quality.

I hope you can afford to try these.

I liked the green ones, but these are navy, not as popular, maybe why they are on offer.