My nightmare is that I will die alone and unnoticed. I will only be a skeleton when the bailiffs break down the door to evict me for non payment of rent on my flat.
My nightmare is that I will die alone and unnoticed. I will only be a skeleton when the bailiffs break down the door to evict me for non payment of rent on my flat.
Hell that is sad. You live alone? You know I have felt exactly the same. I hope you don't die alone and even if you do just know that I read your message and I listened to you. So you weren't alone in that sense. I get lonely too. Just hurts sometimes. But I put my big boy pants on and show the world a brave face even though it's not easy to do. Life is hard. I think sometimes when we are young the world seems fine and no problem. For most of us anyway. But as we get older and not only older but experience the world more we can make more of an accurate judgement of the state of affairs.
It's not a perfect solution by any means, but then I doubt if there is a one size fits all solution. Sheltered housing, either private or social could be another idea? One of my aunts lived in such a complex, it was a detached bungalow, she made lots of friends, but they weren't living in each others pockets and there was someone on hand to do simple things like change a light bulb, rather than her risk a fall from trying to do it herself.
Yeah
100% or nothing.
Sounds familiar
This is one on the autistic problems. Black and white thinking and perfectionism makes it hard to start if you can't see exactly how things will end, so you get depressed. It is how I think, but unforeseen things happen as you go along and things change, so you just have to do things. The problem of course is not overdoing it, I am either 100% or nothing.
Small steps are needed definitely, it does help with making things seem achievable.
I guess those of us who live alone, should think about having some sort of wearable emergency button that we could press to alert emergency services if we fell or something.
My mother has these due to her very poor balance and frequent falls. It is set to automatic so if she is unconcious then the carers can still get to her.
It means the carers need to have access to your home which is a security to some who live in fear thanks to scaremongering stories from the Daily Mail etc so it may not work for all.
There is a subscription fee for it as well if any want to choose this option.
I've had that fear too, that I will be found partially eaten by my animals, actually my worse fear in that sort of scenario, is that I will lie injured for hours or even days before dying, it would be alright if it was a massive heart attack or something that killed me straight away.
I guess those of us who live alone, should think about having some sort of wearable emergency button that we could press to alert emergency services if we fell or something.
If you ask chatGPT what the biggest use case is, it's people talking to it.
It can simulate emotions, much like I think emotions, but it doesn't feel them. You still need to talk to real people, although it is becoming harder.
Most people would rather talk to their phone than to the person in front of them.
Social spaces are diminishing, trust is decreasing, work places emptying (some days I'm in a 2000sq ft office on my own), pubs getting quieter or closing, people have less to say.
My neighbour died 20 months ago and the police came and broke down his door. He died suddenly, but he was erratic and wasn't always there, so it took a few days to be noticed.
I try not to think about it as it doesn't go anywhere good.
Male the most of each day and don't wish your life away.
If there is something you want to do, go do it, or at least start down the path. Many small steps will get you a long way.
I completely get why that would make you feel depressed, it makes me very sad too.
I think more and more people are turning to chatgpt for help.
We still need human connection though.
To feel that isolated is a dangerous place to be in.
We are all connected to each other.
Keep reaching out on here.
That's a very sad thought.
I know you feel alone but you're not, not really.
You matter, that's why people read and reply to your post.
I was reading this and got very depressed.
www.dailymail.co.uk/.../Woman-23-dead-bed-one-year-died-conversation-ChatGPT.html
My nightmare is that I will die alone and unnoticed.
Have you considered what is driving this fear?
What are your concerns about this? You will be dead so you won't be able to be hurt anymore and there is no-one to be hurt by it as you are alone.
I've found that considering the reality of our mortality is very grounding.
There are 107 billion people who have ever lived and the vast majority of them are long dead, fogotten and turned to bones or dust long ago. We all have a similar fate ahead and the chances of us creating any meaningful legacy are tiny.
By seeing the harsh reality there I find it gives more reason to embrace every day and live life while you can because that is really all we have. Find the things that make you happy or give meaning to you and fill your boots as you never know when the grim reaper will come calling, and I'm pretty sure he never heard anyone say "I wish I had spent more time alone and lonely".
I understand your fear. I have often thought, living alone, how long would it take someone to notice. When I'm in work, it would get picked up. But during our 6 week time off in the summer - potentially it'd take the whole 6 weeks. Maybe my parents would notice before that. When I get to the point of retirement and there's no more work and no more parents, will I have anyone to notice. Currently I really don't think I will. It is a hard way to feel.
I don't know how real your nightmare is to you. Whether you mean it literally or figuratively. But I hope your wrong and that there are people who care about you and would notice.
