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Thinking of leaving

Elfilis

Yeah I’m considering leaving the forum as I feel I no longer fit in here now and I seem to have become burdensome in some way so yeah I guess the time has come for me to leave. I have enjoyed my time here but I guess things change and move on. 

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  • It is one of the cognitive distortions I posted some months ago; deciding what other people think. You are not a burden to yourself, so you are deciding you are a burden to them. They have not said anything, so you don't know.

    It is always worth double checking whether what you think has real evidence to support it. Try not to over read things.

    It is also worth taking a break for a few days, or a week or two, sometimes. You, like all of us, have other things in your life that can cause stress and can affect your capacity to cope. It can help to just push things away and chill out. A sense of perspective will soon come back.

    People may not reply because they don't have anything to add to what you said. Rather than ignoring you, people may have read it and agreed.

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  • It is one of the cognitive distortions I posted some months ago; deciding what other people think. You are not a burden to yourself, so you are deciding you are a burden to them. They have not said anything, so you don't know.

    It is always worth double checking whether what you think has real evidence to support it. Try not to over read things.

    It is also worth taking a break for a few days, or a week or two, sometimes. You, like all of us, have other things in your life that can cause stress and can affect your capacity to cope. It can help to just push things away and chill out. A sense of perspective will soon come back.

    People may not reply because they don't have anything to add to what you said. Rather than ignoring you, people may have read it and agreed.

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  • in reply to Stuart333

    I have been told I need to double check things like this before so I should do these fact checks. Like is it facts or just my over paranoid opinions. 

    I never thought of that with the replies really, so yeah I defo have a lot to learn but I do feel coming here has helped me learn different things but I just didn’t want to upset people but as you say I need to check for evidence (hope I’m understanding this)

    I might have a little bit of time off here as I have got a lot going on for real at the moment. Thank you for replying anyway