Does anyone want to chat?

i am open to chat,my birthday was yesterday and it was as usual very stressful.

Ha, ha.

I hope so as well. Thanks for the awesome idea Recombinantsocks. You seem very intelligent and seem to have many great solutions to many of my problems.

Thanks

Kindest regards,

Matthew.

I'm glad you like the dog idea, i wasn't sure if i could get the idea across but it sounds as though you've got it.

I hope you can train your "Fenton" better than the chap on youtube!

I also loved the dog idea. It's very good and thoughtful I think.

Kindest regards,

Matthew.

Hey Recombinantsocks,

Thanks for this very well written comment. You're right ASD has many bad points but it also has some good points. Perhaps I linger on the bad points a little to much but hopefully with some CBT therapy I might improve a little. It's funny that you mention getting rid of ASD because I always tell my mum and dad that I'd love for it to go but they always say they wouldn't change me for the world.

Loving and understanding my Autism is very hard for me. Sometimes I love it, some of the things I do I think are pretty great but when I can't go out, when I worry about the little things and especially when I can't help out my family, that upsets me and that's when I hate ASD just a little more.

Thanks for the reply Recombinantsocks

Kindest regards,

Matthew.

I sometimes thing of my ASD as like having an unruly pet dog with me all of the time. You can't leave him behind and he has good points and bad points.

You won't get rid of the syndrome but you can understand it and control it some of the time. Other times, it'll run off and make a mess but you have to accept that that will happen from time to time.

I expect you have seen Ashleigh and Pudsey? They did so well because Ashleigh understood her dog so well that she could train it to do what she wanted. This wasn't done with a stick but with love and understanding. Can you love and understand your ASD so that you can use its strengths and manage its weknesses?

Hey Recombinantsocks,

Yeah well really I am trying to get a hold of my ASD and sort of show it who is boss, that's one of the reasons why I am doing this charity event. I go out sometimes usually up the road with my brother but most of the time I spend in my bedroom playing on my computer all day and everyday!

It was reccommended by Y'lass that I look for a ASD support group and luckily I have found one that is only 2 miles from my home, so that might work out for me. I'm also going to check out CBT therapy, I think that might help me a lot.

Thanks Recombinantsocks for all the help your giving me. It's nice to be on a website where everyone understands each other.

 Thank you Recombinantsocks.

Kindest regards,

Matthew.

i think you are on the right track. There is a lot to understand about ASD and i can see you are really trying hard to understand how to handle it.

I'm trying to figure it out too and am aware of more things every day. Today i have gone out on my bicycle because i like the fresh air and it allows me to be on my own for a while without being stuck in the house.

Hi Recombinantsocks,

I was also sorry that I didn't go, but I am still very grateful for all the advice you gave me yesterday. It did help, really it did I guess I just wasn't prepared today. I also think CBT might help me out, my mum and dad are going to look in to it for me. Hopefully it will help me out and stop me worrying 24-7.

I hope you are well Recombinantsocks. And thank you for being so helpful again.

Kindest regards,

Matthew.

I was sorry to see that you decided not to go. I was also interested to see you discussing CBT. I think CBT could be useful for you. You clearly think about stuff a lot and care deeply about your family so I think you have got what it will take to make a success of it.

Our discussion yesterday was, as I understand it, a bit like a CBT session. You need a little help with knowing what to think about as this is an area that we find difficult. You need to be able to remind yourself about positive things to bring some balance back to your thoughts. It is sometimes really difficult to remember good things when you get tangled up in something bad. I think the CBT will help you practice these two points of deciding what to think about and remembering positive things.