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Miffo

Hi.

My name is Matthew and a few years ago I was diagnosed with Autism. Since then my life has changed, in some ways for the better but also for the worst. I now, don't really go out, I worry about mine and my families health and I worry quite a lot, sometimes I don't even know what I am worrying about. It seems quite silly I know but I'm hoping others on the forums will understand what I am talking about.

The reason I am writing now is because basically I am not really happy with who I am. My mum and dad always say that they wouldn't change me for the world, but for some reason I just dislike the way that I am. When I write books I always write about a brave man, a man who goes out and a man who helps protect others - that's me writing about the man I want to be, not the man I am. I also dwell on the past, I often think back to times when I have shouted at my mum, not gone out in the car when I wanted to and lately I haven't gone to see my gran who is in a carehome.

If anyone can help me like myself more and can get me out and about in the car then I'd be very grateful. Smile

Regards,

Matthew.

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    I'm really pleased that this made you feel better. :-)

    You really aren't being a pest, you are helping me to work out some of the things that have happened in my life! - I am going back over all sorts of things that have happened and I wonder if some of them were because of the ASD and exactly how the ASD had an impact on what I did. You have reminded me that I used to get car sick too, I had to go and visit my gran and I had to go and visit someone with dementia, and I am now figuring out why I felt so bad sometimes. Lots of it just happens and is nothing to do with the ASD - life happens to everyone and it's unpredictable and sometimes fun and sometimes not but I think it is a great adventure! I've just discovered I have AS. How amazing is that? How much stuff is there to learn about ASD? How are we the same as NT people and how are we different?

    Who else do you know that has it too? - I think you'll start to spot more and more people who have it - it is probably more common (or normal!) than you think. You have to be careful with this as lots of people would be very offended if you suggested that they are on the spectrum with us. Ask you parents privately if they agree with you about someone you think might be on on the spectrum. This can be a good game for you to play with your parents and it may help you, and them, to understand your diagnosis and how you are the same but different to NT people.

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    I'm really pleased that this made you feel better. :-)

    You really aren't being a pest, you are helping me to work out some of the things that have happened in my life! - I am going back over all sorts of things that have happened and I wonder if some of them were because of the ASD and exactly how the ASD had an impact on what I did. You have reminded me that I used to get car sick too, I had to go and visit my gran and I had to go and visit someone with dementia, and I am now figuring out why I felt so bad sometimes. Lots of it just happens and is nothing to do with the ASD - life happens to everyone and it's unpredictable and sometimes fun and sometimes not but I think it is a great adventure! I've just discovered I have AS. How amazing is that? How much stuff is there to learn about ASD? How are we the same as NT people and how are we different?

    Who else do you know that has it too? - I think you'll start to spot more and more people who have it - it is probably more common (or normal!) than you think. You have to be careful with this as lots of people would be very offended if you suggested that they are on the spectrum with us. Ask you parents privately if they agree with you about someone you think might be on on the spectrum. This can be a good game for you to play with your parents and it may help you, and them, to understand your diagnosis and how you are the same but different to NT people.

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