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Stressed out!

Louise1977

I have 2 boys both with ASD at different ends of the spectrum. Was in McD's when my 6 year old who has aspergers went into a flying fit over his younger brother eating his chips. It all happened so quickly that i didnt even know what had started it off at first as i was trying to get my 2 year old to eat. My 5 year old boy started screaming like he was being murdered because his brother was shouting at him. It was a confined space and i must admit an awfully loud event. My mother then comes along, looking in shock, shouted at the older one which just made him worse, which made the younger one worse. Then she decides to tell the couple next to me that shes sorry, they are disabled children.....omg i could have killed her, the batty woman!! I continued to cuddle my younger boy to try and calm him down. Normally i woud never take my 2 boys out without my husband or teenage daughters to help, this proved that my mum is def not up to playing supportive Nan Frown I know its not her fault she doesnt understand but omg. I find the rest of my family dont care much either, or least they dont show it, they never baby sit or take kids out. My mother acted like she had never seen kids go off on one before yet she had 5 children? Is it me or am i right to feel unsupported and stressed?

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  • Thanks for your message. I have just googled the letter and will have a good look at that Smile.

    Just wanted to say that my Mum did not say they are autistic, she said they are disabled children?? lol. Think that kind of offended me. I did not feel imbarressed at all... until she stuck her head round their table and said that. The couple were lovely and were not bothered by the children. After things calmed down i explained to them that they have autisum and that the older one gets very upset when people touch his stuff. They wished me all the best when they left.

    My mother was obviously defending them, but i feel as though she reacted like that because she felt very imbarressed, she didnt know where to look, it was like a panic set in when she walked in and heard them going off. 

    I have to say i am very proud of my boys, i think they are fantastic, beautiful little people. I dont care about what others think of them, i am quite aware that alot of people are ignorant and uneducated on the matter. Nice people understand or sympathise. 

    I wont be going out alone with mother in future with the boys as she obv couldnt handle it. 

    Thanks again Smile

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  • Thanks for your message. I have just googled the letter and will have a good look at that Smile.

    Just wanted to say that my Mum did not say they are autistic, she said they are disabled children?? lol. Think that kind of offended me. I did not feel imbarressed at all... until she stuck her head round their table and said that. The couple were lovely and were not bothered by the children. After things calmed down i explained to them that they have autisum and that the older one gets very upset when people touch his stuff. They wished me all the best when they left.

    My mother was obviously defending them, but i feel as though she reacted like that because she felt very imbarressed, she didnt know where to look, it was like a panic set in when she walked in and heard them going off. 

    I have to say i am very proud of my boys, i think they are fantastic, beautiful little people. I dont care about what others think of them, i am quite aware that alot of people are ignorant and uneducated on the matter. Nice people understand or sympathise. 

    I wont be going out alone with mother in future with the boys as she obv couldnt handle it. 

    Thanks again Smile

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