Stressed out!

I have 2 boys both with ASD at different ends of the spectrum. Was in McD's when my 6 year old who has aspergers went into a flying fit over his younger brother eating his chips. It all happened so quickly that i didnt even know what had started it off at first as i was trying to get my 2 year old to eat. My 5 year old boy started screaming like he was being murdered because his brother was shouting at him. It was a confined space and i must admit an awfully loud event. My mother then comes along, looking in shock, shouted at the older one which just made him worse, which made the younger one worse. Then she decides to tell the couple next to me that shes sorry, they are disabled children.....omg i could have killed her, the batty woman!! I continued to cuddle my younger boy to try and calm him down. Normally i woud never take my 2 boys out without my husband or teenage daughters to help, this proved that my mum is def not up to playing supportive Nan Frown I know its not her fault she doesnt understand but omg. I find the rest of my family dont care much either, or least they dont show it, they never baby sit or take kids out. My mother acted like she had never seen kids go off on one before yet she had 5 children? Is it me or am i right to feel unsupported and stressed?

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  • Thank you so much for your reply. It is very helpful to know that i am not the only person who lives with all this. 

    My elder son is like your two, higher functioning and he comes accross as very intellegent, so i suppose people must wonder why such a cleaver normal looking child does have such meltdowns. The other one is very gentle and loving, slow, more daydreamy, he also has epilepsy.

    I have learnt to ignore strangers looks but find it hurtful with family members. I am quite strong and possitive in my support and sticking up for them, education wise too. I just have so much love for them and have always tried to understand their world, impossible as it may seam, just to try and make it a little better for them.

    Thanks again, Take care,

    Louise1977

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  • Thank you so much for your reply. It is very helpful to know that i am not the only person who lives with all this. 

    My elder son is like your two, higher functioning and he comes accross as very intellegent, so i suppose people must wonder why such a cleaver normal looking child does have such meltdowns. The other one is very gentle and loving, slow, more daydreamy, he also has epilepsy.

    I have learnt to ignore strangers looks but find it hurtful with family members. I am quite strong and possitive in my support and sticking up for them, education wise too. I just have so much love for them and have always tried to understand their world, impossible as it may seam, just to try and make it a little better for them.

    Thanks again, Take care,

    Louise1977

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