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Stressed out!

Louise1977

I have 2 boys both with ASD at different ends of the spectrum. Was in McD's when my 6 year old who has aspergers went into a flying fit over his younger brother eating his chips. It all happened so quickly that i didnt even know what had started it off at first as i was trying to get my 2 year old to eat. My 5 year old boy started screaming like he was being murdered because his brother was shouting at him. It was a confined space and i must admit an awfully loud event. My mother then comes along, looking in shock, shouted at the older one which just made him worse, which made the younger one worse. Then she decides to tell the couple next to me that shes sorry, they are disabled children.....omg i could have killed her, the batty woman!! I continued to cuddle my younger boy to try and calm him down. Normally i woud never take my 2 boys out without my husband or teenage daughters to help, this proved that my mum is def not up to playing supportive Nan Frown I know its not her fault she doesnt understand but omg. I find the rest of my family dont care much either, or least they dont show it, they never baby sit or take kids out. My mother acted like she had never seen kids go off on one before yet she had 5 children? Is it me or am i right to feel unsupported and stressed?

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  • Hi Louise1977,

     You will never be able to change some attitudes i'm affriad and although it's family, it seldom makes much of a difference.

    I have two very high functioning lads who on the face of it look normal and of course one is reasonably articulate. (Comes accross as highly intellegent, in fact.)

    The disparity between what people percieve and what the boys can often manage is huge. If they witness a meldown, it's always a shock. Equally, the prejudice is huge. From disbelief to disdain, people are so cruel in their attitudes. All very isolating really. As if the boys haven't got enough to contend with.

    You are doing a great job and clearly you are more aware than most. Take comfort in that and may be over time she may pick up a few visual cues herself. Smile

    Take Care

    Regards

    Coogybear.

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  • Hi Louise1977,

     You will never be able to change some attitudes i'm affriad and although it's family, it seldom makes much of a difference.

    I have two very high functioning lads who on the face of it look normal and of course one is reasonably articulate. (Comes accross as highly intellegent, in fact.)

    The disparity between what people percieve and what the boys can often manage is huge. If they witness a meldown, it's always a shock. Equally, the prejudice is huge. From disbelief to disdain, people are so cruel in their attitudes. All very isolating really. As if the boys haven't got enough to contend with.

    You are doing a great job and clearly you are more aware than most. Take comfort in that and may be over time she may pick up a few visual cues herself. Smile

    Take Care

    Regards

    Coogybear.

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