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How do I explain me to my parents?

Aspeth

I was diagnosed with ASD and ADHD around 9-10 years ago and have gotten plenty of support (therapists, social/support worker, etc) but my parents still don't seem to comprehend what my being autistic actually means... for example, I just can't cope with certain sounds and I can't have a shower without washing my hair but no matter how hard I try, they won't believe me when I tell them and when I provide proof from sites on the subject, I'm hit with "don't believe everything you read on the internet."

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  • I think if you’ve already tried to help them be more informed but they are resistant etc then maybe it might be better to accept that your parents don’t have the capacity to understand the subtleties and complexity of what being autistic actually involves? Maybe it’s not worth your time and energy trying to explain to them if they seem to not want to truly listen to you and respect what you’re trying to communicate to them. My parents never really ‘got’ autism - I don’t think they had the understanding or the motivation to understand it. So in the end I decided to accept the fact that they were - frankly - quite ignorant about the subtleties of human nature and psychology! 
    ultimately you don’t have to ‘convince’ your parents of anything - free yourself from the need to do that and you might find the situation with them less frustrating! 

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  • I think if you’ve already tried to help them be more informed but they are resistant etc then maybe it might be better to accept that your parents don’t have the capacity to understand the subtleties and complexity of what being autistic actually involves? Maybe it’s not worth your time and energy trying to explain to them if they seem to not want to truly listen to you and respect what you’re trying to communicate to them. My parents never really ‘got’ autism - I don’t think they had the understanding or the motivation to understand it. So in the end I decided to accept the fact that they were - frankly - quite ignorant about the subtleties of human nature and psychology! 
    ultimately you don’t have to ‘convince’ your parents of anything - free yourself from the need to do that and you might find the situation with them less frustrating! 

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