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Exchanging information and finding community: how to do it?

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Some time ago my psychologist told me that I frequently express desire to connect with others.

I know this is very hard and tends to be frustrating for me. Maybe others here can relate?

Some "roadblocks" I have spotted, mostly from my side, are:

  • Sensitivity to the language and facial expressions used by others
  • Habit of getting stuck in details makes it hard for others
  • In-person: Need to remain anonymous
  • Online: Need to I regularly need to delete my accounts, or camouflage in some way.

I am aware these aren't bad things on their own, but in everyday life they backfire spectacularly.

1. Do you find hard talking or engaging with others relating your special interests? And discussing deep into a topic with others?

2. Do you use some platform or are lucky enough to have friends which also have similar interests to yours?

3. Besides doing it here, have you find a "community" for your interests? Do you have to follow rules to stay mentally healthy?

The questions are just to make the post more focussed, but anything regarding your experience in this regard will be appreciated.

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  • Taking your order;

    1. Yes - unless there is a meaningful and unifying "prompt" to specifics.......breadth stifles a "start point" is there is no "prompt."

    2. I use no platform (other than this compromised and clunky place,) but I am lucky enough to have some friends who have interests of their own, that although I don't share, we have found that our "wiring" is the same.....therefore we share, and learn, from each other.

    3. The bulk of my interests, can be encapsulated in my work.  Therefore, when I am busy - I am happy - and in a "community."  I still haven't properly quantified the "rules" that will enable me to stay mentally healthy......assuming such rules actually exist (and I'm not wholly sure they do!)

    Regarding my experience, more generally = I need time, space, observation, reassurance, comfort and calm......over a prolonged period.....to enable me to "bond" with anything, anyone, or any place.  My trust is VERY hard won, and VERY easily lost.  Therefore, I am undoubtedly destined to a life of lonely disappointment.

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  • Taking your order;

    1. Yes - unless there is a meaningful and unifying "prompt" to specifics.......breadth stifles a "start point" is there is no "prompt."

    2. I use no platform (other than this compromised and clunky place,) but I am lucky enough to have some friends who have interests of their own, that although I don't share, we have found that our "wiring" is the same.....therefore we share, and learn, from each other.

    3. The bulk of my interests, can be encapsulated in my work.  Therefore, when I am busy - I am happy - and in a "community."  I still haven't properly quantified the "rules" that will enable me to stay mentally healthy......assuming such rules actually exist (and I'm not wholly sure they do!)

    Regarding my experience, more generally = I need time, space, observation, reassurance, comfort and calm......over a prolonged period.....to enable me to "bond" with anything, anyone, or any place.  My trust is VERY hard won, and VERY easily lost.  Therefore, I am undoubtedly destined to a life of lonely disappointment.

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