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Exchanging information and finding community: how to do it?

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Some time ago my psychologist told me that I frequently express desire to connect with others.

I know this is very hard and tends to be frustrating for me. Maybe others here can relate?

Some "roadblocks" I have spotted, mostly from my side, are:

  • Sensitivity to the language and facial expressions used by others
  • Habit of getting stuck in details makes it hard for others
  • In-person: Need to remain anonymous
  • Online: Need to I regularly need to delete my accounts, or camouflage in some way.

I am aware these aren't bad things on their own, but in everyday life they backfire spectacularly.

1. Do you find hard talking or engaging with others relating your special interests? And discussing deep into a topic with others?

2. Do you use some platform or are lucky enough to have friends which also have similar interests to yours?

3. Besides doing it here, have you find a "community" for your interests? Do you have to follow rules to stay mentally healthy?

The questions are just to make the post more focussed, but anything regarding your experience in this regard will be appreciated.

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  • I think it's harder to meet others when you're out of fulltime education or haven't got school age children. Many people don't work in organisations large enough for them to meet many people, let alone ones they get on with.

    The only community I have is here, its the place where I can be my authentic autistic self. To stay mentally healthy, I stay away from most other people, the older I get the less I want to do people. I've started to be what some would see as quite selfish and ask whats in it for me? Usually the answer is, not a lot, surface conversations, a dog walk, maybe I'll find someone to have a conversation with about something I'm interested in.

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  • I think it's harder to meet others when you're out of fulltime education or haven't got school age children. Many people don't work in organisations large enough for them to meet many people, let alone ones they get on with.

    The only community I have is here, its the place where I can be my authentic autistic self. To stay mentally healthy, I stay away from most other people, the older I get the less I want to do people. I've started to be what some would see as quite selfish and ask whats in it for me? Usually the answer is, not a lot, surface conversations, a dog walk, maybe I'll find someone to have a conversation with about something I'm interested in.

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