What do you want to do or be when you grow up?

I've never had an ambition, or a goal/s in life, at 63 I still don't know what I want to do when I grow up. I don't know if it's because I was never encouraged to do anything when I was a child, although I was often discouraged. If like most little girls I said I wantd to be a nurse, I was told that I wouldn't really want to that as it would involve carrying used bed pans around. A wish to be a hairdresser was met with disgust.

We had no careers advice at school, or at least not until we'd made our exam choices and it was to late to change anything. Some of the teachers said there was no point in educating us as we'd only go off and get married and have babies.

After leaving school, I was asked what I wanted to do and could never answer, I simply didn't know, I remember being told to search through a filing cabinet of folders about possible careers and found nothing, I was just overwhelmed. I think it also didn't help that a "career" was a fairly new thing, for people of my class, we's always had "jobs", which was a very different thing.

How did you find the thing you wanted to do, or do you still not know?

Do you do the job you trained for? 

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  • I want to add to this. Did you think you were normal or average? I always felt different, not surprisingly, but I felt I had to achieve more, that I was above average.

    Being single with one income and navigating an uncertain world, I have not achieved what I wanted and feel I am behind people who worked less hard in terms of housing, although I have maybe done more. I wonder if my priorities were right 

    I feel I have underachieved. It is hard.

    Perhaps if I'd known what I wanted and was not so confused it would have been better.

  • That's interesting - I also always thought I had to acheive more and that I was above average. I remember thinking specifically - that's ok for her to do that (a not perfect thing), but not for me. 

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