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Lonely and depressed.

Scorpion0x17

I live by myself, and though I have two PAs that I see three times a week, and go out to clubs and events related to my hobbies and interests, I lack, and therefor crave, companionship.

Does anyone else feel this way?

And does anyone have any tips on how to cope with the feelings of lonliness and the depression that brings?

Also does anyone have any suggestions for practical solutions to this problem?

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  • Trouble is companionship depends on the conventional social interfaces. However the more interpersonal the dialogue, the greater the depenence on non-verbal. You have to be saying the right things, making the right gestures and be "in tune" with the other person.  It is really hard to do if you have autism.

    Socialisation that is impersonal, such as the usual niceties exchanged at a club or society or with people you deal with routinely, can be learned by practice and mostly achieved. But these encounters don't lead to development of any companionable feelings.

    I know this only too well and at nearly 64 have just had to learn to make the best of fleeting company and soldier on in my own little world.

    Until all the Health Professionals iout there start to consider daily life with autism, rather than the more lucrative opportunities of finding a cure or analysing the inner workings of imagination and empathy, nothing is going to change.

    Try searching loneliness on the NAS website....lol

    I do a lot of committee work. If well managed it is sensorily manageable, and the general interchange is OK for me. It does give me some outside involvement but never companionship.

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  • Trouble is companionship depends on the conventional social interfaces. However the more interpersonal the dialogue, the greater the depenence on non-verbal. You have to be saying the right things, making the right gestures and be "in tune" with the other person.  It is really hard to do if you have autism.

    Socialisation that is impersonal, such as the usual niceties exchanged at a club or society or with people you deal with routinely, can be learned by practice and mostly achieved. But these encounters don't lead to development of any companionable feelings.

    I know this only too well and at nearly 64 have just had to learn to make the best of fleeting company and soldier on in my own little world.

    Until all the Health Professionals iout there start to consider daily life with autism, rather than the more lucrative opportunities of finding a cure or analysing the inner workings of imagination and empathy, nothing is going to change.

    Try searching loneliness on the NAS website....lol

    I do a lot of committee work. If well managed it is sensorily manageable, and the general interchange is OK for me. It does give me some outside involvement but never companionship.

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