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Violent traits and gobblygook

Graham W

Just out of interest,

My 9 year old is on the high end spectrum of Aspergers.

His obsession with violent talk is starting to get boring now.

All his chit chat is blow up this, kill that, bomb this, build a trap and stab that!!!

We don't let him watch inappropriate TV or play games with violent natures.

He also comes out with some over the top BS about anything, and just goes on and on about rubbish, almost an obsession about tat.

is this a 9 year old brain or ???

any pointers appreciated 

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  • Also consider what he is hearing at school, in the playground and elsewhere. His peers may be in to violent films, or the cult sci-fi based violence around robotic creatures and people with super powers.

    While he may not be able to fully engage in these discussions for social reasons, we may be seeking the approval of others by sharing these interests. But if you are censoring everything his only way into this world is what he hears from his peers, and indeed they may be encouraging his misunderstandings of things.

    Remember he may not be able to get conventional feedback on reality from social exchanges, but he will be under pressure to conform.

    I also think you need to concede some contact with what his classmates see, so he isn't denied understanding of popular media. He may not chose to share those interests, but you can be too protective by barring him from seeing things his peers are managing to watch.

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  • Also consider what he is hearing at school, in the playground and elsewhere. His peers may be in to violent films, or the cult sci-fi based violence around robotic creatures and people with super powers.

    While he may not be able to fully engage in these discussions for social reasons, we may be seeking the approval of others by sharing these interests. But if you are censoring everything his only way into this world is what he hears from his peers, and indeed they may be encouraging his misunderstandings of things.

    Remember he may not be able to get conventional feedback on reality from social exchanges, but he will be under pressure to conform.

    I also think you need to concede some contact with what his classmates see, so he isn't denied understanding of popular media. He may not chose to share those interests, but you can be too protective by barring him from seeing things his peers are managing to watch.

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