Violent traits and gobblygook

I will say this though. With an attitide like that you don't deserve to be a parent.

Graham W said:

any pointers appreciated

One simle pointer:

Don't be so condescending and dismissive of your son's interests.

They may be boring BS to you, but that is utterly irrelevant.

Frankly, if I posted what I thought of your opinions of your son's interests I would get banned from this community, so I won't.

Also consider what he is hearing at school, in the playground and elsewhere. His peers may be in to violent films, or the cult sci-fi based violence around robotic creatures and people with super powers.

While he may not be able to fully engage in these discussions for social reasons, we may be seeking the approval of others by sharing these interests. But if you are censoring everything his only way into this world is what he hears from his peers, and indeed they may be encouraging his misunderstandings of things.

Remember he may not be able to get conventional feedback on reality from social exchanges, but he will be under pressure to conform.

I also think you need to concede some contact with what his classmates see, so he isn't denied understanding of popular media. He may not chose to share those interests, but you can be too protective by barring him from seeing things his peers are managing to watch.

Hi Graham W,

  I think your sons obsession, although boring and rubbish in your opinion, is of great importance to your son.

My own son speaks endlessly about dates in History and Historical events, some of which are very gory. None of us have an interest in History and yes he does sometimes go on too much and of course he doesn't realize others are not interested, (he has a social communication difficulty!) but we recognize that we need to channel his gift for reciting facts, into something that is of use or benefit to others.

Far from being an irritation, my sons new found outlet has become a channel in which he can focus what most might consider a macabre or boring interest, in teaching others historical facts.

Perhaps finding your son an outlet for such expressions, is what he needs. He's still quite young obviously, but maybe in the future his forte may lie in the design or construction of the very types of games you are seeking to keep your son from viewing at this young age.

He will find his niche, just be prepared that it should be what interests him and that this might not be what you find interesting or acceptable. If he's not physically hurting others, look at ways he can channel such an obsession. Their is a very good chance that with the right support your sons obsessions can be broadened.

Support him and embrace his difference.

Coogybear xx

Reminds me of me. Hes likely to always be interested in violence if he shows such inclinations now. I personally love the details and strategies of conflict mannagement and resolution and spend my personally allotted hobby time experimenting with various Imperial or Insurgent strategies on various strategy MMO's (as game theory simulations (in a fishbowl.) However with the smallest measure of restraint and personal sacrifice, I avoid legal violation which is more than many "normal" persons manage.

I find, myself wondering why you'd trample over your sons interests to cause him to conform to what you consider right for him?