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Going through a bad spell

Skybird

I'm really fed up and I need to rant.

Just lately whatever I do seems to be wrong. Regardless of what it is, I just get these irritating people picking faults in everything I've done, even if they have been with good intentions. A couple of weeks ago I snapped at someone on Twitter over something I misunderstood and then had to apologise for it. I took something someone else said on Facebook to heart, started worrying about it and then was put in my place by someone else. Again I had to apologise. I shared some design ideas about improving a website and was pretty much told that the design sucked, I shared my thoughts on search engine optimisation and everything I said was pretty much got ignored whilst they went along with what someone else, who by their own admission, knows nothing on the subject, said. 

I get angry and come up with all these drastic ideas in my head about how I can get back at all these people but so far I haven't carried any of them out until last night. I know this is not the right way to handle things and it's going to be yet another thing that I'll end up having to apologise for.

Apologising is all I seem to be doing these days.

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    Skybird, I'm going through a similar phase of stepping from one faux pas to another. I can really sympathise with what you are going through.

    Take a step back and work out what you are good at, focus on what you CAN do rather than what you find hard. There is a movement in HR that seeks to make the most of what people are good at rather than obsessing over their faults. I've been reading the book www.amazon.co.uk/.../1416502661 which explains this. I'm finding this very helpful in rebuilding my confidence following my diagnosis and a period of realising all of the mistakes I've been making.

  • I used to get so many unneeded comments on social network . i think its good your staying away from Facebook that site is evil and hurts a lot of people try something like Instagram this way you can put up pictures that make you happy ! Add people and all they can do is see your picture and like it or not there's no such thing as no like :) life's *** a lot for the time and hard but that will drag you down more. Find a new hobbie like lego :) x

  • I'll always apologise if I've misunderstood something or know that I'm in the wrong, it's just that I seem to have to be apologising all the time at the moment.

    I've deactivated my Facebook account for a few days because I don't need that kind of negativity at the moment but I almost feel like saying 'Sorry for whatever I have said that is wrong in the past and whatever I will no doubt say in the future'.

    I think the problem is that I feel everything so intensely and most of my moments when I've said or done the wrong thing has been because I've over-reacted to what people say and get angry or upset.

  • I'm like this all the time, but if you misunderstand something then you have to apologise. As it's online on Twitter and Facebook then I think this might be more to do with typing and text, you can't really read the tone because it is not spoken so anything can be misinterpreted in text depending on how you read it.

    SEO, haha, I worked for a company doing SEO a few years ago, for a whole year they did exactly everything I told them to the letter and the site was booming, then they started all arguing among themselves and questioning everything I was doing, all thinking they knew better and before long all the tinkering from other peple meant the site dipped, then dipped again until it was almost back to square one, and guess who got the blame and ended up losing their job ?