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Anxiety

Aaron

Was very anxious on Thursday. So I decided to try and go in the shop on my own again and buy something. I managed to do it but the girls at the till started talking about my dog, they were only asking how she was and that they really like her. I wasn’t really saying much, just wanted too get out of there, my Mum said how proud and happy she was that I managed to go in and buy something, but honestly I really don’t want to do it again.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    Thank you, maybe next time I go there if I’m not feeling as anxious I will talk more about my dog maizy, I’m just glad I managed to do it.

  • in reply to Jas

    Thank you for the kind words, I’m just glad it’s done. Hopefully next time I won’t feel as anxious.

  • in reply to White_Dragon

    Thank you, and yeah hopefully I can have something to talk about next time, hopefully I won’t feel as anxious next time.

  • The good thing about dogs, or one of them, is that they always give you someting to talk about with strangers.

    Well done for getting out by yourself.

  • Sounds like you did amazingly. Don’t be too hard on yourself, that will have taken a lot to get through and it’s understandable you don’t want to repeat it in a hurry. Surprise small talk is never easy to deal with. I would have totally had a meltdown, but you completely aced it!

    Relax and enjoy the satisfaction that you did it. Congrats and great job!

  • Good to hear, I wouldn’t be so tough on yourself it sounded like you accomplished the mission. Next time you can be maybe have something prepared to say?

  • in reply to Aaron

    You can talk a bit more next time or the time after. It will come. First thing was to buy something. Baby steps. You don't have to do everything in one go, that's what adds to the pressure. Once buying things becomes less scary and you know the people it will be easier.

  • in reply to Stuart333

    Thank you Stuart. I just wish I could’ve been a bit more talkative, my mum did say to me if I want to she would explain about me being autistic and that I get really anxious talking to people, but I’m happy that I managed to buy something on my own.

  • Well done. It will get easier on the 3rd or 4th time.

    Once it becomes not new it will be less of an emotional challenge, which will free up the processing power to exchange a few more words with the people. Dogs are a good way to get people to interact with you. May not be what you always want though.

    You've proven you can do it. Nothing terrible happened.

    Don't you feel like you achieved something?