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Sometimes shrinks really get on my nerves: A Rant

maxlinger60

Love to all you psychologists out there, but there's definitely a bell-curve of efficacy. Too little, and it doesn't work. Too much, and every little issue feels like opening a festering wound that should've been let be. You become a case study, an interesting egg to crack. Life's got problems, sure, but sometimes all we need is someone to tell us that it's not the end of the world, help us problem solve, and some therapists just aren't good at that. I don't need you to psychoanalyze my every emotion. I just need space, and reassurance that this too shall pass with a little focus and clarity. Some therapists just aren't good at empowering people, and me having demand avoidance doesn't help with that. 

My doctor told me today that she felt I wasn't being honest with her about some issues I was having, and I had no clue how to respond besides saying, "I didn't want you to know that. It wasn't your business." Frankly, I felt violated by the idea that I had to even open up to anybody about that particular thing, or meet the goals she was setting for me. Maybe I'm just resistant to her in particular. Who knows. The majority of my "trauma" (if you could really call it that) comes from medical professionals who took their practice way too far and made me share things I wasn't comfortable with.

I am a big proponent of therapy, but at a certain point, we need to stop normalizing ripping apart our psyche for someone to put back together. I need help healing myself, not letting you reshape me into your image. There is something so mortifying about the process, and we don't need to prostrate our entire selves before the altar of psychologists.

Anybody else?

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  • I’ve had psychotherapy by mental health professionals, usually in the form of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), quite a few times throughout my life. CBT has been quite useful. Since my autism diagnosis last year, I have adapted the CBT techniques and I’m directing myself when I feel my self esteem slipping. I find the CBT techniques are a practical way of enforcing truths.

    I have seen a Clinical Psychologist for only two periods of psychotherapy, one period of NHS therapy and one period of private therapy, and it didn’t help me at all. I didn’t know what I was meant to say or not say. Perhaps I just didn’t connect with the psychologist, or the type of therapy they were offering didn’t suit, so I am not going to dismiss their clinical work altogether.

    maxlinger60 said:
    I am a big proponent of therapy, but at a certain point, we need to stop normalizing ripping apart our psyche for someone to put back together.

    The culture of psychotherapy is very different in Ireland and the UK. Not many people here can easily access NHS services and if they can, there can be a long waiting list. Some pay for psychological services, but it wouldn’t be usual. 

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  • I’ve had psychotherapy by mental health professionals, usually in the form of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), quite a few times throughout my life. CBT has been quite useful. Since my autism diagnosis last year, I have adapted the CBT techniques and I’m directing myself when I feel my self esteem slipping. I find the CBT techniques are a practical way of enforcing truths.

    I have seen a Clinical Psychologist for only two periods of psychotherapy, one period of NHS therapy and one period of private therapy, and it didn’t help me at all. I didn’t know what I was meant to say or not say. Perhaps I just didn’t connect with the psychologist, or the type of therapy they were offering didn’t suit, so I am not going to dismiss their clinical work altogether.

    maxlinger60 said:
    I am a big proponent of therapy, but at a certain point, we need to stop normalizing ripping apart our psyche for someone to put back together.

    The culture of psychotherapy is very different in Ireland and the UK. Not many people here can easily access NHS services and if they can, there can be a long waiting list. Some pay for psychological services, but it wouldn’t be usual. 

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