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Sometimes shrinks really get on my nerves: A Rant

maxlinger60

Love to all you psychologists out there, but there's definitely a bell-curve of efficacy. Too little, and it doesn't work. Too much, and every little issue feels like opening a festering wound that should've been let be. You become a case study, an interesting egg to crack. Life's got problems, sure, but sometimes all we need is someone to tell us that it's not the end of the world, help us problem solve, and some therapists just aren't good at that. I don't need you to psychoanalyze my every emotion. I just need space, and reassurance that this too shall pass with a little focus and clarity. Some therapists just aren't good at empowering people, and me having demand avoidance doesn't help with that. 

My doctor told me today that she felt I wasn't being honest with her about some issues I was having, and I had no clue how to respond besides saying, "I didn't want you to know that. It wasn't your business." Frankly, I felt violated by the idea that I had to even open up to anybody about that particular thing, or meet the goals she was setting for me. Maybe I'm just resistant to her in particular. Who knows. The majority of my "trauma" (if you could really call it that) comes from medical professionals who took their practice way too far and made me share things I wasn't comfortable with.

I am a big proponent of therapy, but at a certain point, we need to stop normalizing ripping apart our psyche for someone to put back together. I need help healing myself, not letting you reshape me into your image. There is something so mortifying about the process, and we don't need to prostrate our entire selves before the altar of psychologists.

Anybody else?

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  • I've had quite a lot of therapy over the years and it can be quite hard to get a new therapist to accept that I've dealt with a particular issue and I don't want the scabs picked off and the wound reopening, its retraumatising.

    I've only ever seen two psychologists, but loads of counsellors, it might be a profession thing, with psychologists feeling they have some kind of right to challenge you harder than a counsellor would be comfortable with? Counsellors do challenge clients, but this whole thing about not being honest, to me that is very iffy, how does the therapist know that you know whats going on? Most people in therapy don't always know how to frame things that are happening for them, often it's why they've sought therapy in the first place, it should be for the therapist to help them make these realisations not force them onto a client. You should have the right to say that something is off limits for the time being, all this stuff you're saying sounds as though it's more about the therapist and less about you.

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  • I've had quite a lot of therapy over the years and it can be quite hard to get a new therapist to accept that I've dealt with a particular issue and I don't want the scabs picked off and the wound reopening, its retraumatising.

    I've only ever seen two psychologists, but loads of counsellors, it might be a profession thing, with psychologists feeling they have some kind of right to challenge you harder than a counsellor would be comfortable with? Counsellors do challenge clients, but this whole thing about not being honest, to me that is very iffy, how does the therapist know that you know whats going on? Most people in therapy don't always know how to frame things that are happening for them, often it's why they've sought therapy in the first place, it should be for the therapist to help them make these realisations not force them onto a client. You should have the right to say that something is off limits for the time being, all this stuff you're saying sounds as though it's more about the therapist and less about you.

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