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Having a bad day today

Mason

I'm just feeling bad and no one understands the difficulties I'm having in life. Its so hard sometimes. Today I went to see my friend from growing up, she always looked after me made sure I had everything I needed, helped me straighten up my clothes (even though I never knew I was even untidy) and she fought off the bullies for me as much as she could. She is now married and trying to sort out her career and trying to plan when to get pregnant, basically what an adult should be doing. She keeps wanting me to find a boyfriend and other people from work do aswell for some reason, I don't understand what difference it makes to them anyway, but they keep going on about it. the thing is, I don't want to be alone forever, but I can't imagine anyone coming into my life and having to deal with someone wanting me to be with them all the time and not understanding when I need space or when I can't deal with a social situation.

I feel like no one understands the severety of the problems I'm trying to deal with. Today in town she still had to stop me crossing the roads while traffic was coming because I was in an unfamiliar place and found having roads and trams in the middle of the town centre too confusing, I just didn't notice them as roads. She always used to have to do the same when I was little, but surely she shouldn't have to look after me in just the same way now I'm 27. It makes me feel so childish, stupid and useless at everything and I feel like I'll never have that normal life, I'm stuck and I don't know how to get past it, Im back living with my dad now too and I've reverted more to my childhood since moving back here, like being in the familiar place where I grew up has taken me back to that time. I feel like I'll be here forever and never be able move on because I can't imagine anything changing. 

Sorry, I guess I'm just feeling depressed about things at the moment and want to get it out.

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  • I would just like to reiterate, Mason, that you are not alone.

    I am 26 years old and often get a bit down when I contemplate the things I want - partner, kids, career, independence, but that I don't currently have due to my asperger's. It will be hard for you to find a boyfriend because Asperger's is a social disability, and if you find it hard to make friends, it is 10 times harder to develop a meaningful, intimate relationship; but, it is not impossible. You are still fairly young, so try not to worry too much about these things just yet. Remember, many people don't find a partner until they are well into their 30s, and finding someone special can be difficult for Neurotypicals as well.

    Try and maintain perspective by focusing on the positives of your situation. You have a friend who looks out for you, a new allotment - have you ever considered a job in gardening?, and you never know what new turns life might take. Try to remember this when you feel low.

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  • I would just like to reiterate, Mason, that you are not alone.

    I am 26 years old and often get a bit down when I contemplate the things I want - partner, kids, career, independence, but that I don't currently have due to my asperger's. It will be hard for you to find a boyfriend because Asperger's is a social disability, and if you find it hard to make friends, it is 10 times harder to develop a meaningful, intimate relationship; but, it is not impossible. You are still fairly young, so try not to worry too much about these things just yet. Remember, many people don't find a partner until they are well into their 30s, and finding someone special can be difficult for Neurotypicals as well.

    Try and maintain perspective by focusing on the positives of your situation. You have a friend who looks out for you, a new allotment - have you ever considered a job in gardening?, and you never know what new turns life might take. Try to remember this when you feel low.

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