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HOW do you Cope with/DO/Survive Vacations?

Fuzzyair

As the title says…

My girlfriend (neurotypical but, lovely all the same…) wants to go on vacation and weirdly, it doesn’t make her go all funny in her tummy and build up with intense anxiety at the idea of a 3 and a half hour car journey. Weird right! She’s been wanting to go away for a while and I foolishly gave in and now in a week’s time we’re off to Devon. But now the anxiety is increasing and I know it’s going to be a tiresome anxious filled week ahead.

The ridiculous thing is I DO enjoy vacations…..When I get there. Anxiety takes the edge off things leading up to the event but when I finally get there it all floats away and I enjoy the time away.

My main anxious thought is needing to wee all the time. Anxiety affects me like that, unfortunately, though better that end than t’other TBF! I’m just painfully aware I’m going to be on the road for 3 or so hours on easter weekend so know the motorway will be heaving…. That said, I have at least convinced Lisa for us to set off at 8:00 a.m. so we should beat most of the heavy traffic.

Enough of my woeful ramblings though, how do you prepare and survive these awful things!?! The anxiety is crippling me already and yet it’s only traveling 130 miles. I need to chill out, prepare as best I can and pray to Allah’s cat that I’ll survive the ordeal.

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  • I haven't had a holiday in ages, and I do feel I need one.  In fact it's been so long that I don't really know where to start.   That said, I do live in a holiday destination, so it could be said that perhaps I don't need one as much as most.  

    Sometimes I do read these posts and think how fortunate people must be to have these problems, but then I must (try to) remember that all things are relative, and that anxiety is very real no matter the subject it concerns.

    I do suggest you approach your GP if your anxiety is getting too much to handle.  I do suggest you plan your journey properly (AA Route Planner or similar) and look for suitable places to take a break on the way.  At least you KNOW you will enjoy it when you get there. 

    I don't know if Allah's cat will be much help, but you can let us know how you get on with that one !  

  • in reply to overwhelmed & underwhelmed ( O & U )

    Out of curiosity, where do you like/want to go on vacation to? They say a lot of people who live in a vacation destination want to go somewhere further away that isn’t typically a vacation place, like the inner city. I personally like places with beaches or mountains and woodlands. I like seeing the wildlife in mountain regions and the peace and quiet is always nice too.

    Thanks for the tips. Great suggestions, I have already studied AA route planer and Lisa has pointed out some alternative routes for us to take too. I’ll be pumping up the car tires on the morning, that way I know they’re full and good to go on the day. You’re right I really must get to a GP but the idea of being in medical places makes me feel even more ill than I do already. In the meantime I have physical exercise and distraction techniques and my dog to keep the anxiety at bay. I’m going for a checkup though, in August so maybe I can ask about my anxiety then.

    That's something I have NEVER understood about anxiety, how it makes you worry, feel like rubbish about things you WILL actually enjoy. The human mind is a strange thing... I have never understood it.

    It’s 50/50 with Allah’s cat… The fact I own a dog, and not a cat, he may frown upon that and use it against me. At least I have positive thinking with me though – off to a great start!

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    Fuzzyair said:
    where do you like/want to go on vacation to?

    I've lived in a cities before, so that's out.  I've not even begun the process of thinking about it, and my ADHD infested brain hasn't yet allowed me the focused time to think about it properly.   Yet I tend to over-think when I do start.  You see why I haven't got around to it in a while? 

    I have an Allah's dog too, so that's another holiday consideration I suppose !!


  • in reply to overwhelmed & underwhelmed ( O & U )

    I see and understand. I don't think my brain has ever allowed time to properly think about anything. So much time over-thinking and never properly focusing and thinking, no wonder we autists are always so exhausted!

    At least you have an Allah's dog though. These small pieces of Heaven are what make life so precious and worth living, IMO.

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  • in reply to overwhelmed & underwhelmed ( O & U )

    I see and understand. I don't think my brain has ever allowed time to properly think about anything. So much time over-thinking and never properly focusing and thinking, no wonder we autists are always so exhausted!

    At least you have an Allah's dog though. These small pieces of Heaven are what make life so precious and worth living, IMO.

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