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Double standard in “look at others”

Alien0n3arth

Recently I got a question why I work in a warehouse, when I have such good skills- 3 foreign languages at high levels, photoshop, AutoCAD, ms office, good education etc. then I heard good advice about how I should manage my career and I was told look at this person, look at that person, how they manage it, how they run their own business. “Do something about yourself!” Yeah, I love it. 
But when I answer that not everyone with good language skills or high creativity is doing a good career, there are many people who have unique or special skills but do basic jobs, I was told “don’t look at others”. So how is it… look at others or not? In my case I just chose this job because it does not damage me mentally. It’s often I could say therapeutic for me. I just do my job, I habe a good attention to detail, good memory etc. and I’m hard working and honest person. It’s being valued. But I guess many people just can’t get it. Anyway this kind of double standard really irritates me. Does anyone have similar experience?

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  • For me, the most important person to "look at" is ourselves, not others (ie you focus on looking at you, I'll focus on looking at me, etc). And, by "look at", I mean understand - including in respect of our capabilities, things that cause us issues (whether due to being autistic or otherwise), preferences, and so on. Which you've clearly done.

    To me, that seems to be a far better basis for making decisions about our jobs or careers than judging ourselves against others, who may not - in that sense - be even remotely similar to us.

    I think the only question that matters is whether the job feels right to you - and you seem to have answered that to your own satisfaction a long time ago. I suspect that these people might just have good intentions, and are trying to be supportive in case their encouragement to look beyond your current role is something that you might welcome or find helpful.

    I'd personally be inclined to reply with something like "thank you, I appreciate your kind intentions, but I've considered all of that, and am confident that this is best job for me", as going into any more detail might be seen as a prompt for further debate.

  • in reply to Bunny

    Thank you, I find your response really helpful!

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